You can domesticate wild animals

Glad the future misses agrees on not blowing 1000's on a venue, etc. for the wedding, so not worth it.

In 1993 my wife did not want a big wedding nor did I. Just immediate family members was all rented a dining hall seats about 12 at a nice mansion type setting that had a place for the court judge to marry us. Am sure total cost including rental and meal service was well under 1 grand total. My extended family (aunts / uncles / cousins ) did not like it at all nor did I care since their problem not mine, oh well.

Our honeymoon was nothing fancy either hooked up my dad's fishing boat to my car and went fishing/camping a few days to a somewhat local lake/campground not used often.

Now my brother's kid got married about 6 years ago and boy oh boy rented out the upstairs open area overlooking Lake Monona for the wedding service and a room below upper terrace at the Monona Terrace Convention Center in Madison WI for well over 10K for about 8 hours use and that did not even include cleaning the room up after midnight having to do it themselves even. Such a waste of money. I still remember all my older aunts/uncles coming from smaller hicktowns there at the reception and thinking that this fancy venue must have cost them a fortune well above what they expected for fancy places.

My daughter kept changing her mind on whether next year to have an outdoor wedding in her hometown renting out a place not too fancy like a townhall with outdoor seating, etc. along the eau claire riverfront to get married or just save their money and elope. My wife and I were all for just inviting immediate family or just eloping not wasting 1000's, was up to them not interfering. Who knows, she still may change her mind yet again? One thing that will be awkward is her fiancee has tons of family members and friends that would attend vs. my families side 4 hours away NO ONE of my family would attend besides my brother and his kids and my wife's mom is about it. So, they would have guessing 50 friends attending, 20-30 of his family attending, and only about 6 from my side of the family. Very similar back in 1993 when we got married I would back then have 20-30 family members attending vs. my wife's side of the family only have 1-4 attending total sort of awkward there as well.

My long winded point, do what you both feel comfortable doing is about YOU BOTH and not pleasing family or friends.