I got the news saturday

[Popcorn]

as I was heading south on A1A in Florida that my wife had died. She had filed for a divorce over a year ago and the court date kept getting postponed.  I'am sorry to say that I shed no tears to hear the news. She had sold everything that I had worked all my life for.

[Duckwheat]

Things are just things, it is still someone's life. Maybe time will give you a different perspective some where down the road.

DW

[NCGhostrider]

Tough call on how to feel on that one.  I too hate to see or hear of anyone's death.  It is part of our lives and we must endure, but sometimes they hit close to home.

I would probably have the same feelings about my ex.  Six years ago she stole everything I had, and tried to turn my children away from me.   She may have succeeded with my youngest.   She is supposedly now in bad health, and I can feel no compassion for her, especially since I still get summoned into court almost yearly for "more money" beyond child support.  She has broke me, and still keeps coming...her new husband has lots of money I guess...

I often get asked what I did to deserve her anger, my answer....  I came home to take care of my mother, who has now passed away.   I had what I thought was my exes support during the prolonged move, but what I got was all of our property sold (there was a good bit), and a divorce.  Then a bill for income tax on sale of the proceeds income. 

I do forgive her, you have forgive someone that is mentally disturbed.   But even now, I have no feelings for her.

Not trying to hijack your thread Popcorn... but I think I do understand where you are coming from.

Best Wishes...

[Bobbo]

I, too, never like to hear the news of someone’s death.  Depending on how she died, it may cause concern for you.  If her death is ruled a homicide, the first “person of interest” will be you.  I hope this is not the case, but you should prepare for a long, painful ordeal if it is.

[big turkey]

Hey Popcorn,,, let's go for a ride to Celebrate.

Be on my tab.

I know the story too well.

Big Al

[GreenLantern57]

Hope you still had her life insurance in your name! That would be poetic!
There have been a couple of people in my life that have died and I felt relief or just shrugged my shoulders.

[Varmintmist]

Don't celebrate to much, it would be bad form.

There are people who you feel bad for.
There are people you feel nothing for.
There are people who you wouldnt pee on if they were on fire.
And there are people who should pray daily that all the people they [expletive deleted] over never get a terminal illness and have nothing to lose.

[BF]

.....and then there are the people that you can't wait to piss on their graves when their gone. 

[Gear Jammer]

Hey Popcorn,,, let's go for a ride to Celebrate.

Be on my tab.

I know the story too well.

Big Al

And I'll pick up the tip   

[Smokinjoe-VRCCDS#0005]

Hey Popcorn,,, let's go for a ride to Celebrate.

Be on my tab.

I know the story too well.

Big Al

And I'll pick up the tip   

Count me in as well Don ....We'll be in your back yard thursday morning we are meeting in Recasa,Georgia  to ride down to Natchez, Mississippi....Meeting at the Flying J Travel Center at Hwy.136 and I-75. Drop by if you can we are going to be there at 11:30 then do some lunch as we wait on Highbinder and Lady Draco.

[eric in md]

popcorn ... sounds like what goes around got her.. ..you can breathe better now.. ahh fresh air.

[Dogg]

say what you will. hate breeds nothing but hate.

every person that we touch gives our lives something. regardless of how you feel now, there is something from your relationship that made you what you are today. make jokes, kid around. its ok. life goes on. but give a few seconds in recognition of what she has given you.   


if all you got was heart ache and head ache, have fun with joe and al and gear jammer. 

[Popcorn]

Thanks for the replys. Well some of them anyway.
She cleaned out my checking acct, sold all my motorcycle parts and a couple of bikes before I could get them all out. plus around $20,000 worth of tools welders ,genarators, torches, ect.
You get the messege.
No heart break here.

Thanks for the call Joe, we'll do it soon. Let me know when you're down near the flying j again

[elraque]

I'm too far away from you for a real ride, please accept this as a "virtual" ride with you.

Vroom. Vroom.

I share the mixed emotions about the ex-wife. For many, many reasons. I think I understand. Maybe.

[Ramjet]

Hey, if you want, I can give you the tel no. and address of my ex in Florida!  She has lots of stuff that I don't have anymore   

[elraque]

Kind gives me an idea for a new Barbie doll -- The "Divorced Barbie"

She's just like all the other Barbies, but she comes with all the stuff that "used to be" Ken's.

[czuch]

With ya Pop.
Sometimes screamin inna horrible firey car crash seems, somehow not enough.
Other times, just leave me and mine alone.
Then I find out she has a very serious heart problem,
I was surprised to learn she had a heart!

[KerryNolan]

Sorry, but that's a really shallow, and incredibly cold response to news about someone you loved once. I hope you and all your new stuff will be happy together.
Shocker your marriage didn't last.
Kerry

[alph]

I’ve got a brother that I wish were dead.  He’s torn our family apart, has stolen thousands of dollars, and has caused many many many hours of tears from my mother’s eyes.  Some people are better off dead, don't care what others may think, call me cold hearted.  Don’t know of any soldier that felt sorry for the enemy they shot dead while defending their own life.  If you think someone will change with prayer, I’ve got another story for you.  If you think you can rehabilitate a serial killer, I hope he’s paroled into YOUR neighborhood.  Some people start out good, may have been a good woman when you married her, but people change, and not always for the better.

If you’re happy she’s dead, I’m glad for your loss.  If for some odd reason you thought she would come around, I’m sorry for your ignorance. 

[Bobbo]

I’ve got a brother that I wish were dead.  He’s torn our family apart, has stolen thousands of dollars, and has caused many many many hours of tears from my mother’s eyes.  Some people are better off dead, don't care what others may think, call me cold hearted.  Don’t know of any soldier that felt sorry for the enemy they shot dead while defending their own life.  If you think someone will change with prayer, I’ve got another story for you.  If you think you can rehabilitate a serial killer, I hope he’s paroled into YOUR neighborhood.  Some people start out good, may have been a good woman when you married her, but people change, and not always for the better.

If you’re happy she’s dead, I’m glad for your loss.  If for some odd reason you thought she would come around, I’m sorry for your ignorance. 

You don't know many soldiers then...

[KerryNolan]

I’ve got a brother that I wish were dead.  He’s torn our family apart, has stolen thousands of dollars, and has caused many many many hours of tears from my mother’s eyes.  Some people are better off dead, don't care what others may think, call me cold hearted.  Don’t know of any soldier that felt sorry for the enemy they shot dead while defending their own life.  If you think someone will change with prayer, I’ve got another story for you.  If you think you can rehabilitate a serial killer, I hope he’s paroled into YOUR neighborhood.  Some people start out good, may have been a good woman when you married her, but people change, and not always for the better.

If you’re happy she’s dead, I’m glad for your loss.  If for some odd reason you thought she would come around, I’m sorry for your ignorance. 

Don't know how the conversation switched to prayer, or serial killers, I guess I missed something. But thank god we don't give out the death penalty for causing mothers tears, or stealing a few thousand bucks.
Sheesh, we have some dark characters around here.
Kerry

[Varmintmist]

I think it is TX where the "He needed killing" defense is still valid.

There are people on this earth who leave a trail of harm, destruction and misery in their wake that is worse than any natural disaster.
A "few thousand" might not be much to you, then again it might mean the differance of your kid going to college, or you eat more than cat food this year.

IMHO, theives take my life away, thay just dont do it all at once. That "few thousand" that I had extra came from time away from my family, normaly trying to make a better life for them. So a few grand after taxes is a few hundred hours of my life stolen.

Like I posted before, there are those that you just dont care about, and there are those that should pray every day that the people they ...... over never get a terminal illness and have nothing to lose.

[Popcorn]

Sorry, but that's a really shallow, and incredibly cold response to news about someone you loved once. I hope you and all your new stuff will be happy together.
Shocker your marriage didn't last.
Kerry

Shallow you say.
Hope you and all your new stuff will be happy together???
Let me tell you something friend??
She lied to the cops and had me locked up and admitted  to it in court.
Move her thieving drug addict boy friend into the house while I had no place to go, and between them and their drug buddies stole, sold, or give away everything I had.
One other good thing is that her boyfriend died in the house from a drug overdose. And yes I laughed my ass off about that.

And as far as my new stuff I got laided off from a job I had for almost 20 years because of the turn down, so I don't expect to have any new stuff.
But thanks for your feed-back.

[NCGhostrider]

Popcorn,

There are some of us that have had a taste of it.   I don't get excited too often, but this subject does hit close to home.   Someone else posted that some people leave a trail of destruction behind them, that post describes my ex wife to a T.   Until they have been thru it, or have someone so close to them they can't miss it...those that post that they can't believe how you/I/others feel, will not understand. 

 I once spewed the "how can you feel that way about someone crap."   Then it happened to me, perfect marriage.. had it made...but my priorities were family, not money.   Hers turned out to be more in love with the benzes in the garage, the fake smiles and plastic surgery. 

I have woke up in the middle of the night, obviously dreaming about the misery she has caused me and is still causing me.   Hard to feel much compassion.. and as far as stuff goes... I miss things everyday that I had since childhood, an odd keepsake that was given to me by family... camping gear my son and I bought...she threw those away....  Now I get brought into court yearly for additional money, on top of child support.  I have to fight those battles..and they are very expensive.  I barely can afford to pay the bills I have, much less support her 3/4 mil home.   

I am thru rambling...so if anyone wants to blast you..they can blast me as well.  They should know, that we don't all have to agree...and those that know me..find that I am very compassionate...but if you try to take my kids...then take my stuff, and keep coming for more... I WILL CELEBRATE WHEN YOU DIE!

If you ever make it my neck of the woods, let me know we will ride...I would say we were married to same person, but my ex is still alive....

I need a ride...foaming at the mouth is bad for me.. 

[KerryNolan]

Sorry, but that's a really shallow, and incredibly cold response to news about someone you loved once. I hope you and all your new stuff will be happy together.
Shocker your marriage didn't last.
Kerry

Shallow you say.
Hope you and all your new stuff will be happy together???
Let me tell you something friend??
She lied to the cops and had me locked up and admitted  to it in court.
Move her thieving drug addict boy friend into the house while I had no place to go, and between them and their drug buddies stole, sold, or give away everything I had.
One other good thing is that her boyfriend died in the house from a drug overdose. And yes I laughed my ass off about that.

And as far as my new stuff I got laided off from a job I had for almost 20 years because of the turn down, so I don't expect to have any new stuff.
But thanks for your feed-back.

I'm not unsympathetic, my first wife cheated on me with one of our friends, she kept my motorcycle (a 74 Yamaha XS 650) and gave it to this prick. She then moved three times in order to hide our son from me, so, I can understand deep resentment. Being thankful (or wishing) that she is dead? No sir. Some people are flawed, and will never truly understand their shortcomings, Move on with your life, content with the knowledge that you are a better person. It's nothing but stuff. Hatred and vengeance take far too much energy, and eventually destroy your ability to enjoy your life. I say, make peace with your past, and move on.
Kerry
PS. I've been together with my 2nd wife now for almost 30 years now... She's the best.