R J
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« on: April 03, 2011, 12:23:04 PM » |
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To make a long story short, mom's brother-in-law (93 years) passed Thursday and today is the family viewing.
Pray for me that I have enough sense to keep my pie hole shut, no matter how hurting the digs are and how pissed off I get at the time when I receive them. Trust me, they will be spilled out of my cousin's mouth today.
I have not spoken to most of the family for the past 40 years, except to tell them something or ask for something and it always turns into a hen fight. Mom's sister used to start them, but she is so deep into Alzheimer's she probably won't even recognize me, but, she has a daughter, who I used to babysit 60 years ago that also has a very sharp mouth, her mother drilled it into her head I was a SOB.
I don't want my Uncle to go in the ground with me a sounding off, he was too good of a guy to me, especially after I lost my dad.
Thanks for the help, it is much appreciated..
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« Reply #1 on: April 03, 2011, 12:25:47 PM » |
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i pray you'll be the rock and the family will see you for that and reallize you aint so bad after all.  |
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« Reply #2 on: April 03, 2011, 12:27:26 PM » |
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those situations can be rather sticky.
you will be in my thoughts and prayers.
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« Reply #3 on: April 03, 2011, 12:30:06 PM » |
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Patience and Tolerance RJ... Keep repeating to yourself Patience and Tolerance!! A very wise man My Dad told me that long ago and its helped me through alot of trying times... My Dad just passed this morning and thats sticking in my head.. Take Care My Friend..
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« Reply #4 on: April 03, 2011, 12:34:57 PM » |
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prayers sent RJ and Kendall I am sorry for your great loss today. Good advise given
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R J
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« Reply #5 on: April 03, 2011, 12:48:33 PM » |
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Patience and Tolerance RJ... Keep repeating to yourself Patience and Tolerance!! A very wise man My Dad told me that long ago and its helped me through alot of trying times... My Dad just passed this morning and thats sticking in my head.. Take Care My Friend..
Sorry to hear that news Kendall. Thoughts and prayers from IA for all of the family. Give Pam a big hug for me, OK? Thanks. |
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« Reply #6 on: April 03, 2011, 01:20:21 PM » |
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Just don't bite off your tongue RJ  You'll make it just OK. Keeping your promise to your Mom is worth enduring the sniping.  |
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« Reply #7 on: April 03, 2011, 01:26:07 PM » |
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Ask god for the help you need r j. That being said-prayers up from the ozarks. You can do this-you are a MARINE. SEMPER FI.
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« Reply #8 on: April 03, 2011, 01:56:57 PM » |
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Prayers for my friend RJ that God will keep him strong enough to rise above the BS and have a calm time. They just aren't worth it RJ. Go pay your respects and come on back home. Good luck!
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« Reply #9 on: April 03, 2011, 01:57:40 PM » |
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your a bigger man so my bet is that you wil just walk away and ignore the stupid people..hang tuff.
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« Reply #10 on: April 03, 2011, 02:44:01 PM » |
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Sometimes the best revenge is to shut up and smile at the fools. Shakes their confidence when needlers cant get under your skin.
Come here and we can all laugh at them later.
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« Reply #11 on: April 03, 2011, 03:41:30 PM » |
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RJ,
i know exactly how you feel. when my mother passes away, it will be the last time i will ever have to deal with her oldest son. out of respect for her, i will go to her funeral, but as for her first born boy, there will be no respect, and it will be hard to stay out of jail on that day.
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« Reply #12 on: April 03, 2011, 04:51:48 PM » |
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RJ, it's one day, do whatever you need to do to be at peace with yourself. Sometimes families suck. Your VRCC family is here for you.
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« Reply #13 on: April 03, 2011, 05:56:14 PM » |
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Prayers sent to help you through this my friend. As my Dad would have said, "ignore them, they're just sucking wind through their A$$". I never really understood that phrase but I sure enjoyed it.  |
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« Reply #14 on: April 03, 2011, 06:34:58 PM » |
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sorry for your loss, rj. praying for you from houston
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R J
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« Reply #15 on: April 03, 2011, 07:14:44 PM » |
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Patience and Tolerance RJ... Keep repeating to yourself Patience and Tolerance!! A very wise man My Dad told me that long ago and its helped me through alot of trying times... My Dad just passed this morning and thats sticking in my head.. Take Care My Friend..
Kendall, I did the patience and tolerance thing and it went better than I expected. I didn't stick around for the Aunt, (Mom's sister) to show up. After talking to her kids, I chose to remember her as she was about 40 years ago. Thanks for the thoughts and parayers, it helped, as that is as calm as I've been with that family in over 55 years. |
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« Reply #16 on: April 03, 2011, 07:22:19 PM » |
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Good on ya. Sometimes things have a way of workin out. RIDE SAFE.
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« Reply #17 on: April 03, 2011, 08:27:01 PM » |
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Proud of ya RJ,,, told ya it was good advise.. 8-)
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« Reply #18 on: April 03, 2011, 08:52:59 PM » |
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Sorry for your loss Kendall and RJ.
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« Reply #19 on: April 03, 2011, 09:43:39 PM » |
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Real glad things worked out, RJ. Prayers up for you and Kendall, both.
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« Reply #20 on: April 04, 2011, 07:02:31 AM » |
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Glad it worked out for ya RJ. Prayers for you and Kendall from TEXAS.
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« Reply #21 on: April 04, 2011, 07:38:52 AM » |
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Just remember that this too will pass.
Just remember that you do not have to live with them.
Like was said be the rock we know you are.
We love you R.J.
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« Reply #22 on: April 04, 2011, 07:57:56 AM » |
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Praying for you to be teflon RJ today, let everything that could bug you, just slide off.
Also, yesterday the sermon was about forgiveness, hope that it might somehow work its way into today.
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