John Schmidt
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a/k/a Stuffy. '99 I/S Valk Roadsmith Trike
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« on: April 03, 2013, 09:28:28 PM » |
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I was sitting next to my oldest daughter's(54 at the time) hospice bed, holding her left hand, talking to her, telling her I loved her, even though she was not aware of any of us. Her husband was on the other side holding the other hand, both of us knowing the end was near. At 12:40am, just twenty minutes later, she breathed her last....folllowing a younger sister that left us six years before. To say that I've been tormented these last few hours would be a gross understatement. A parent should not have to bury their child. I've buried two in the last seven years. Cancer is a horrible thing to face, but both of them faced it with courage and grace until the very end. The neat thing is....I still have two girls left and this has brought us even closer together as a family. We were close before, but these events really moved us, as it should. Sorry for the post, I just had to get it off my chest. I guess it's a bit of a release, although totally inadequate.  |
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James III
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« Reply #1 on: April 03, 2013, 11:07:50 PM » |
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Amen.
God bless you Mr. Schmidt and your family.
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alph
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« Reply #2 on: April 04, 2013, 03:03:51 AM » |
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john. i'm sitting here at work, it's almost 5am. and thanks to you i'm all teared up.
yeah, i know it sucks. buried my son, he would have been turning 18 this coming may 6th. some people have it worse, some don't. it's just the cards we've been delt. it's been much harder for you than for me, either way it's tough.
if it means anything, i wish i could give you a hug and a pat on the back, sometimes just knowing someone else feels how much you're hurting makes it hurt a little less.
hang in there. time heals all wounds.
al.
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gregk
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« Reply #3 on: April 04, 2013, 05:42:56 AM » |
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My symphty goes out to both of you John & Alph. I did hospice with my step dad for maybe a week & a half and was next to him when he passed. That is the last thing I'd wish on anyone Its really tough. Then again beihg young and loosing a young son or daughter is probebly a hell of a lot tougher. They say time heals, only a little. You never forgot.
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« Reply #4 on: April 04, 2013, 05:54:02 AM » |
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Prayers to your family John. |
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« Reply #5 on: April 04, 2013, 05:57:25 AM » |
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John, don't be sorry for your post. This is family and and it's nice to know that many here empathize with you.
While my kids are all alive and well, I'm going with a lady friend that lost two daughters. They were killed by a train. She has talked to me a lot about them. Both of them were in their 'teens.
We never forget memories, both good and bad.
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Xtracho
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« Reply #6 on: April 04, 2013, 05:59:58 AM » |
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Wasn't around on the forum this time last year. My sincerest sympathies go out to you and your family. And hopes that you find comfort in HE that watches over all of us.
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Hooter
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« Reply #7 on: April 04, 2013, 06:05:22 AM » |
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Sorry John, I know the feeling! Too many of us keep this kinda thing bottled up inside, not good...Still tough for me too, and I fully understand!
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« Reply #8 on: April 04, 2013, 06:23:30 AM » |
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As you heal, those few days of sorrow will be overtaken by the years of joy you've had and you can smile, remembering those days for as long as you live.
God bless.
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« Reply #9 on: April 04, 2013, 06:55:38 AM » |
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Am sorry for your loss John. Its good to have folks to talk to. My wife was on hospice for 2 years and we buried her on my birthday last june. Lost her, my dad and baby brother all in the last year. Dont know if i could bear loosing one of my kids.
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« Reply #10 on: April 04, 2013, 06:58:39 AM » |
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John-i have no idea at all of what you are going through. Lost aunts and uncles and Mom and Dad growing up. I hope and pray i depart BEFORE ANY of my children do. And like Wayne said John-we family here. May our LORD and SAVIOUR JESUS CHRIST grant you peace and understanding always.
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3fan4life
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« Reply #12 on: April 04, 2013, 09:32:36 AM » |
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Don't feel that you need to apologize for venting to us.
You have been through ALOT over the past year.
We are family here and family is there to lean on when you need them.
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« Reply #13 on: April 04, 2013, 10:20:51 AM » |
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Thought about you a lot lately John. I remember very well when you lost your first daughter. It was close to the time I lost my daughter and how we eventually met. I'm sure glad we were able to get together for a couple hours two weeks ago. Like someone posted here....time heals things but you never forget. I hate we've lost our girls but glad to have met you. Hope to see you again soon.
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