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« on: November 13, 2020, 02:45:17 PM »

died when he was 63. As I am nearing that age, it has me thinking more about the things I learned from him. He never liked motorcycles, yet he helped me buy my first before I was even legal to ride it on the street. If it weren't for my Dad I would not be able to work on stuff like I'm able to. If it was something he was able to do, or learn how to do, he would NEVER pay someone else to do it. Because of helping him, I learned a lot. My brother and I joke around how stressful it was to be standing next to the vehicle he was under and retrieving tools for him when we were 7 or 8. You learned the difference between a 7/16 socket and a 9/16 socket real quick.  Smiley Or how not to let up on the brake pedal when he was bleeding them until you were told.
  As time goes on I think I have become more like him in many ways. And I've also become vastly different in other ways. My Dad was terrible with money. I'm sure the way he grew up with an alcoholic father had a lot to do with it. He never thought about the future. I don't think he ever had more than a couple thousand in his bank account at one time. It's just who he was. It also had a big effect on me. I knew at a pretty early age I wouldn't live like that. For some strange reason, I think he had more pride in me from this than anything else. I never amassed a fortune. But, I did pretty well with what I had.
  We just got back from a couple days with the family in a cabin in the Hualapais. Being around my grandkids makes me wonder what they will draw from me. I hope they are as lucky as I was.  Smiley
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« Reply #1 on: November 13, 2020, 03:25:31 PM »

I was terribly concerned when I saw your grandson in a Biden t-shirt!!! But he has time to grow out of that cooldude . I too learned more than I knew while growing up under my Dads watchful eye. He is part of the reason I left the retail/corporate world and went to work for myself in the remodeling jack of all trades business. Family is so important and I have to admit I admire successful people who didn’t have a supportive family life growing up. But as they say, it it doesn’t kill you it will make you stronger.
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« Reply #2 on: November 13, 2020, 03:32:45 PM »

Tomorrow marks the 40th year that our family lost our father at age 68 to a sudden and unexpected heart attack; the same thing happened to our mom just 18 months earlier when she was just shy of 63.

Like you, my dad, he taught us the best that he could from what he knew and experienced in his life.
That generation went through a lot tougher times than subsequent generations to the present; they defined what it is to sacrifice, endure, persevere, and move ahead when life wasn't fair or forgiving.

I consider myself to be the luckiest man on the face of the earth (to paraphrase Lou Gehrig), as we had the greatest parents that a bunch of kids could ever hope for.

I sense that you are expressing those same feelings to your family when wisdom takes hold as time passes.
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« Reply #3 on: November 13, 2020, 03:59:33 PM »

Holy crap Rob, we’re brothers??  2funny

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« Reply #4 on: November 13, 2020, 05:24:14 PM »

yah,  that generation growing up never had much at all and like my Dad born in 1932 and growing up very poor 10 kids in Minot ND old farm,  then going into Korean War in 1950's a few years coming to WI for a job am sure was tough.    They learned to live without all throughout their lives.  I surprised my Dad with a cell phone in his 60's under my plan,   and that was a shock.  He surprisingly caught on how to use it and got it for him to take with on car trips anywhere in case the old 1986 caprice clunked out to call someone.  My mistake,  he called me near daily on that thing nothing to say, just calling me to make sure the darn cell phone worked.... 2funny

He drank beer a LOT, a lot meaning anywhere from 3-8 beers every single day, along with a few shots of brandy near daily.    I wonder how much he would have saved (being rich) if not for the daily beer drinking?   Grin      I still remember every week going to Woodmans grocery store with a 24 (or was it 30) pack of schlitz cardboard box glass bottles then returning them every week empty for some type of return credit.  Came to a shock when in his early 70's,  he quit drinking cold turkey and started drinking pop instead.  He said the taste did not agree with him anymore, darn near fell to the floor in disbelief.  That is when he lost a TON of weight mainly in his beer gut nearly all gone.

That generation also never believed in credit cards always paying CASH for everything.  Worried me when Mom went weekly grocery shopping with my Dad with 200 bucks cash in an envelope paying cash for everything.  Been instances where flashing CASH around got followed by someone to a nearby house by me and the old couple got robbed and shot dead.    Heck,  my grandparents never even had indoor plumbing until the 70's in their house and never even had a phone EVER in their house even well into the early 1990's before passing soon after.  

One thing my parents taught me (and grandparents when very young) is to learn to live without.  If you cannot afford to pay cash for anything, do NOT buy it period.  I'm probably one of the most frugal (some say stingy) person there is when spending money foolishly, just does not happen too often.   If it is NOT a good deal,  I very very rarely buy it even to this day.    Heck,  went grocery shopping tonight and had good deals.  Bill was little over 100 bucks but by the time all my discounts came off at pic n save my ending bill was little over 70 bucks, saving over 30 bucks off full retail pricing.  I had to get an employee there maning the checkouts to get approval and override since had 38 items on sale saving too much money I guess   2funny
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« Reply #5 on: November 13, 2020, 06:11:43 PM »

  My Dad passed when he was 65 and I am now 72.
 Have to tell you he told me after living through 3 deployments
he felt he lived much longer than he expected to.
  We have had better food, better care and most ,more
love than the generation before us.
   he was born in 1923 and if he was here he would be 97. There is no way
he would want to be here and not be able to hit that little white ball around.
   The stories he left me with from WW2, Korea and Viet Nam will always
be part of my love for him and what his generation did for us.
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« Reply #6 on: November 13, 2020, 07:09:33 PM »

  My Dad passed when he was 65 and I am now 72.
 Have to tell you he told me after living through 3 deployments
he felt he lived much longer than he expected to.
  We have had better food, better care and most ,more
love than the generation before us.
   he was born in 1923 and if he was here he would be 97. There is no way
he would want to be here and not be able to hit that little white ball around.
   The stories he left me with from WW2, Korea and Viet Nam will always
be part of my love for him and what his generation did for us.

that is amazing to have gone thru 3 wars, let alone one.    Dad never talked much at all about Korean War even after finding newspaper clippings in parents house last  year from 2 events he did to earn medals for them.  He never even told us he got shot and had to have surgery in the war either finding an article about him being shot and discharged from hospital.   All he said was cold and hungry and over half his squadron never made it home alive.   Cry     To this day I always recollect growing up during deer hunting time since he always threw up or got nervous, felt sick,  etc. that 1st morning of the season,  now realizing it was probably mental picking up a gun and killing something again.    I never understood that as a kid growing up.  We had some great deer hunting (and fishing) stories and poorly focused polaroid camera pics to prove it as well.
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« Reply #7 on: November 13, 2020, 08:02:42 PM »

My dad had quite a bit of skill in mechanical, automotive, electrical, carpentry, but he was so busy supervising engineering for National Steel Corp, that he rarely did much of it (paid it done) or teaching it.  One of those rare men who was lucky enough to love his work.

So most of the little I know is all self taught (or lately, YouTube taught).

What I got from dad was values, honor, truth, courtesy, and right and wrong.  And a bit of Marine hand to hand and the combat mindset.  He loved math, and I hated it (which he could not understand).  It was the only thing I really ever needed tutoring in, and it was a struggle for both of us.

He's gone from the big C in 2012 (and I miss him all the time), and mom has her 91st birthday next week.  A little bent and unsteady, but she still has all her marbles and great sense of humor.  Best parents a boy could ever want.
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« Reply #8 on: November 14, 2020, 07:45:39 AM »

Meathead nice post thank you made me have fond memories of my dad.
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