Fathers and sons

[Oss]

been missing mine lately, it is almost 8 yrs.....dang it

Who has a good story behind a pic, or just a pic of you and dad from better days

Could not find a fishing pic on the computer so here is one from 20+yrs ago



After the service in 48 he did City College in 3.5 yrs AT night while working full time then St John's law school in 3 yrs at night also working full time.   Was also editor of the CCNY school paper in his spare time.   How many of us have that kind of energy?  I know I dont

[hubcapsc]

I didn't stage this picture of me, I had to run down to my bike to get my
comfortable shoes after I'd already changed up in my room at the
Gettysburg ride and someone snapped it. I noticed later how similar
it was to the picture of my father...

I'd guess the picture of my father is in Florida, after the war, based on how he was dressed.
He was in Europe during the war, he played trombone in the Army Air-Force band. In a letter
I have he talks about Florida after the war and playing at dances each week.



I don't see the Florida-dance letter right now, but here's a pretty cool still-in-Germany-dance letter...



-Mike

[Alien]

I'm lucky enough to still have my Dad.  He'll be 76 next month.  This man is my strongest supporter, my greatest teacher and my best friend.  This is us about 10 years ago when we finished his 32 Ford.

Dad and I 1 by Scott Sapers, on Flickr

Ride Safe,

Alien

[RNFWP]

My Dad is Santa.
No, this doesn't make me an elf, or keep me off the naughty list.
Be nice I know Santa

He's kind of a big deal...

Better watch out...

[Bret SD]

My dad passed about 2 years ago, this pic was taken in Sedona overlooking Oak Creek Canyon. Mom's still around and very lonely  .
I talk to her often and see her not enough.. Also in the pic is me with my honey, we went to see mom a few months ago.
I'm looking for another pic of dad and I right after we changed the intake manifold on my Towncar.
 

Here's my son at Bell Rock in Sedona, he just turned 19 last month.

[0leman]

My Dad passed in '84.   He was always there for me, even when I thought I didn't need his help.  Yeah, I miss him. 

[shortleg]

  The one thing I know most of us have learned about Fathers is
 without  our knowing they went to night school.
  I say this because when I was younger he was pretty darn
stupid.
  Now that he is not here and I think about what he told me I
realize he was right about stuff.
  As most of us that no longer have our Fathers often stop and think,
 Man what would it be like now to have a chance to take a short walk with him now?

[The emperor has no clothes]

This is my Dad in what I’ve always called his “hippie days”.

He and his buddy in the Air Force. He not much later shot himself in the leg with a .357.

My Dad and his siblings and a couple of their spouses

[Jersey mike]

Those are some good photos guys.

I think of my dad everyday and miss him a lot. We had a big disagreement quite a number of years ago and we haven’t spoken since. Now it’s a big mess and hugely complicated.

[The emperor has no clothes]

Those are some good photos guys.

I think of my dad everyday and miss him a lot. We had a big disagreement quite a number of years ago and we haven’t spoken since. Now it’s a big mess and hugely complicated.

Dude, I'm sure it is "hugely complicated". I had taken my Dad for granted in the last 5 years before his death. No issues or anything. I just got busy with raising kids and work. I thank God all the time for taking the time a couple months before he died. He was still in pretty good shape, and we had no idea of his upcoming heart failure. And then he was gone.





Take the time. It may not work. It may even get uglier. It may be the worst decision you ever make. But, I suspect you will regret till your dying day not doing it.

Merry Christmas to you.

[Serk]

Few of my dad:

Me with my dad as the welcoming committee for Vietnam POWs returning to Lackland AFB, we believe spring of 1973. Evidently we made the national news that day, or so family lore claims.





Me with my dad on rented dirt bikes, Red River, NM, guessing late 1980's:



My parents at an OTS formal, we believe Lackland AFB December of 1973:



Interesting what used to make the newspapers:



Always get a laugh that this was considered newsworthy:



And more recently, at the height of the lockdown, having a distance visit with the triplets:



Him with his favorite three people on Earth, when we first broke quarantine the first time (Per my mom's edict they're back under quarantine again now)



I'm blessed to still have him around, although he's not getting around as well as he used to, not doing too bad, he turns 78 on Thursday..... Worried won't have him around much longer but all we can do is what we can do with what we're given...

[f6john]

My Dad has been gone for 10 years but since the move pictures from the past are still packed away somewhere. He is my North Star, he instilled in me things that make me who I am even when I fall woefully short of his ideal. He made a difference in everyone’s lives he came in contact with. Hopefully before this thread disappears I’ll have a pic or two to add.

[Bret SD]

Those are some good photos guys.

I think of my dad everyday and miss him a lot. We had a big disagreement quite a number of years ago and we haven’t spoken since. Now it’s a big mess and hugely complicated.

I'm with Rob on this one, out of his 5 kids my dad was both physically and mentally abusive to me only while growing up. I left home for the military as soon as I could and had a strained relationship with my father for decades. Up until ~5 years ago I felt like I wanted little to do with him.

On a trip to Sedona my girl and I stayed at my brothers house and I wasn't going to tell my parents we were in town cuz I didn't want to see the old man. I held anger in my heart for too long. My girl had lost both her parents and her brother, leaving only her and her sister. She said I need to see them and form some type of reconciliation before it's too late.
Though we never really hashed out the past we did reconcile and accepted each other, my girl and I stayed at my folks house many times after that and I'm thankful we did.

My dad was strong and healthy for 82 years yet died in his sleep on March 31st of 2019. It's funny, I was the only sibling who cried at his funeral.. we humans are strange critters.

My advice.. make amends if possible, either way it'll make you a better man, no matter how it turns out, and you won't have to live with anger, regret and a big hole in your heart when he goes.

[scooperhsd]

Those are some good photos guys.

I think of my dad everyday and miss him a lot. We had a big disagreement quite a number of years ago and we haven’t spoken since. Now it’s a big mess and hugely complicated.

Dude, I'm sure it is "hugely complicated". I had taken my Dad for granted in the last 5 years before his death. No issues or anything. I just got busy with raising kids and work. I thank God all the time for taking the time a couple months before he died. He was still in pretty good shape, and we had no idea of his upcoming heart failure. And then he was gone.





Take the time. It may not work. It may even get uglier. It may be the worst decision you ever make. But, I suspect you will regret till your dying day not doing it.

Merry Christmas to you.

Good words, Meathead. I lost my dad in 1994 due to lung cancer (he was a lifelong cigarette smoker), and I spent as much time as I could after his diagnosis (and I was stationed in DC at the time). Unfortunately, I wasn't there when he passed, but I did get home for the funeral.

I've also lost my FIL, he was a good man who lived simply and accepted people for who they were. The living definition of a good christian.

I miss both of them.

[Willow]

Here is a picture of me, my son, and my father during some of his fading days.  It was hard for me to see him in his weakened state as he had always been strong, always to me the symbol of strength.

 

Here is a picture of me noting 60,000 miles on the Blue and White, Velvet, thinking of my dad in his younger years before my birth.