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Big Rig
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« on: January 25, 2010, 06:16:17 PM »

Some very disturbing news.

A neighbor that has two children in school with my children took his life on Saturday evening.

He was my age (45)and though we had never met, I do know his wife and children.

My wife and I and the rest of our neighbors were and are in shock.

We will pray for his wife and children for strength....


Just needed to let it out....thanks



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Smokinjoe-VRCCDS#0005
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« Reply #1 on: January 25, 2010, 06:22:18 PM »

Suicide has touched my family twice in less than 10 years its very hard on the ones they leave behind .Those kids will ask the rest of their lives ...Why ?
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« Reply #2 on: January 25, 2010, 08:05:20 PM »

It's very strange lately with the suicides. I know 4 people this year who have taken this route. I didn't see any of them coming. I'll pray for the families involved.
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« Reply #3 on: January 26, 2010, 03:55:12 AM »

Sorry to hear the news.  I lost a childhood friend to suicide a little over 4 years ago.  I grew up next door to his grandparents and our families were very close.  He was a very kind, generous, and reverent guy who couldn't forgive himself for something (unknown to me), had a major breakdown, and the docs loaded him up with all sorts of drugs.  He was never the same after that.  So sad for everyone left.
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« Reply #4 on: January 27, 2010, 06:02:09 AM »

Suicide is a very personal choice. A person considering taking his/her life will always consider the effects of their actions on their families and friends, but it is a choice made due to factors that they feel is in the betterment of all involved.

I don't believe those that end their own sufferering want to punish family and friends, and I do believe that it is their right to do so.

I also know most people will disagree with me, but I have known several that have taken their lives and I know that all of them were religious persons and tried to make peace with their maker.

Support and give love to their survivers. God wants us to aid the survivers and will bless those that reach out in that time of grief.
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« Reply #5 on: January 27, 2010, 07:17:49 AM »

It is very sad when someone chooses to end his life this way.
It's horrible for his wife, children and friends who are left with thousands of questions.
A brother of one of my employees shot himselfe a couple of weeks ago. He was 42 and had a wife and two kids. Last year a 16 year old girl (daughter of a friend of mine) jumped from a bridge and ended her life.
Suicide is a selfish act...
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« Reply #6 on: January 27, 2010, 08:27:21 AM »

My daughters best friends dad shot and killed himself a couple of years ago.  I knew the guy but never saw that coming.

He was troubled with his past, he was a sniper in Vietnam and had his best friend die in his arms there.  That has got to work on you in a bad way.

He was in his late 50s when he commited suicide and the last few years he was having to go to more and more treatments (weeks at a time) for nightmarish dreams to where he never got any sleep.

It is hard for me to imagine being that desperate, and I hope I never will get that bad, to do that because the survivors are the ones who suffers alot.  I know this guys wife and daughter had/have many, many unanswered questions.
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« Reply #7 on: January 27, 2010, 09:16:51 AM »

First of all, praying for the family and friends.

Had a good friend do so several years ago. Left everyone wondering why but the biggest question was and still is why didn't he talk to me?

 My dad has had a couple folks close to him do so, so now he talks to his other pals about it, hoping they will open up if contemplating such action.

I'm not patting myself on the back but want to relate how God worked one day. About 10 years ago I was taking care of some business and headed up Hwy 431 to Abbeville. As I approached this intersection, this small voice told me to turn right and go by this guy's house. I knew him from his kids. I ignored the voice and continued on. He spoke again and I turned around and went to his house arguing the whole way. He was a trucker and I couldn't imagine him being home on a Wed. As I approached his house, there set his truck. Ok, so he's home, now what. I go to the door, he answers with eyes full of tears. I ask what's bugging him and this was his response. "I've been praying all morning that God would send someone by to talk to me. At 12 noon I was going to the woods and blow my brains out." (it was 11:55 when I arrived) I was shocked. He had a beautiful wife, two great kids and a nice place way out in the country and a job. We spent the next six hours talking, praying, reading God's word, crying, laughing, every emotion you could imagine. Kinda lost contact with him after that but saw him and his family at the lake a couple years ago. Neither of us mentioned that day.

Ya never know. So I'm trying to learn, when God speaks, act and take the time it takes. Don't assume anything.
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« Reply #8 on: January 27, 2010, 03:44:55 PM »

I guess one thing people need to realize is that men don’t talk to men about
their problems.  Women talk to each other about EVERYTHING!  Be it from dating to personal women like thingies that we men don’t have to deal with…..  Women learn from a young age to rely on each other, and to go to each other when they need help.  Men, are taught to tough it out, don’t cry, “Be a Man!”, and all that kinda crap. 

There’s not a single one of us that can say they haven’t thought of doing it.  Everyone of us has gotten depressed, those that seem the happiest on the outside are probably the saddest on the inside.

Another sad thing is people that thing, because you cry, you’re mentally unstable.  Well, here’s a fact, it’s better to cry once in a while, then to put a gun to your head, isn’t it?  Who’s the mental person in that situation?

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Big Rig
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« Reply #9 on: January 27, 2010, 07:10:01 PM »

Many different stories listed here...

Just back from the viewing. Lots of stories about him and his life, he was a man's man with a man's problems. He did not have close neighbor friends, or work friends for that matter. He had a beautiful wife and two beautiful children. We (the neighborhood) will watch out for them, closer now than before. Wish we looked closer 5 days ago...these were and are the questions that were being asked by so many. His wife has not told her children that their father is gone...that will be hard enough being that they are only 5 and 6 years old. The "how" part should not come to them for a longer time.  Cry It is hard to talk about a man I never really knew, only to wave to as I passed the house on the way home, his children visted my house numerous times to play with my children. I can only see my situation and try to understand what he must have been going thru to leave a life that other dream about. His pain to me is hard to understand. I want to thank all of you that have said prayers for this family and this man who could find no other way to handle his internal demons. Thanks for letting me get this off my chest...it is a very difficult time, that will ease only with time...I know when I am stressed about life, I get out and get wind in my face...the more stess, the longer the ride...We all deal with it...some better than others...

Thank you all again for lettiing me vent...


Bless you all and please continue to send prayers to the Cocco Family.

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