What is a good wire to use then to provide switched power to the relay besides the light circuit?
The PO wired my driving lights right into the ignition circuit without a real relay, and now I'm replacing melted connectors at the ignition switch and starter relay (oh and I got stuck dead 100 miles from home).
Any switched circuit as long as you use a relay. i.e. accessory leads, front running lights, etc.
As noted, avoid using the headlight circuit. In case of failure you still have lights. And if your tied into the headlight circuit [depending on which end of the circuit] your driving lights may not power down for start-up if they're switched to ON prior to hitting the button.
Many have added a switched fuse block [relayed] for multiple accessory management from the OE accessory leads.