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A bit over a year ago my Dad was diagnosed with conjestive heart failure. Many treatments were tried, but despite best efforts he continued to slowly deteriorate. It was really heartbreaking to watch. I traveled to Maui twice to see him while he was reasonably healthy.
Well I didn't travel to see Dad in his hospice bed last week. My brother n Colorado did go. Dad remained pretty much semi conscious so my brother wasn't even sure Dad knew he was there. That's kinda why I didn't go, I didn't want to see him that way and he not even know I was there
The call came a couple hours ago. Dad passed around 4:30 my time (central)
Even though I was (the whole family was) ready for it. It is still really hard isint it.
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« Reply #1 on: February 28, 2017, 04:38:02 PM » |
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Yes it is. Sorry for your loss.  |
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« Reply #2 on: February 28, 2017, 04:43:06 PM » |
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Be strong Chris I'll hold a good thought
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« Reply #3 on: February 28, 2017, 04:43:51 PM » |
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It's been 15 years since my Dad died from congestive heart failure. Still think about him all the time. I'm sorry for your loss Jeff.
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« Reply #4 on: February 28, 2017, 04:54:38 PM » |
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condolences to the family and best wishes.
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« Reply #5 on: February 28, 2017, 04:59:30 PM » |
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I'm real sorry for your loss. It's never easy, even when you know it's coming......
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« Reply #6 on: February 28, 2017, 05:03:25 PM » |
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same thing with me 8 years ago. Dad's lungs kept filling up with liquids after his emergency pacemaker install some 2-3 months prior due to heartbeats down to 32 beats per minute. Mom mentioned a few days prior to me running him to his dr. that he rolled his eyes in his head sitting in his recliner at home and sort of blacked out for a few minutes and then came to. Knew something was wrong when I got over there and had to drag him to the car unable to walk to get him to the dr. Dr. said NOT going home need emergency pacemaker ASAP, that was a shock as well and he barely made it to the operating table. Dad being dad said NO, going home. Dr. said he would not make it back home more than likely. thought things were on the mend he felt much better soon after surgery able to pump blood to his brain, etc, without passing out. However, little did we know his body was shutting down soon after the surgery, died morning after Christmas loosing unconsciousness on Christmas afternoon 2008 while I was talking to him in the hospital asking him if he wanted anymore ice cubes, he never responded to me back going into a blank stare, very WTF moment. Trust me, is very hard watching him the next morning taking one last HUGE gasp of breath when he was on oxygen full blast all that night. Both instances of one minute talking to him asking for ice cubes like there was nothing wrong then NO response like in a coma on top of the next morning him taking a HUGE one last GASP of breath was for me very, very tramatic and even now still bothers me.
It gets easier as the years go by, but I still relive that Christmas 2008 day like it was yesterday in my mind quite often.
Sorry for your loss.
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« Reply #7 on: February 28, 2017, 05:20:19 PM » |
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My dad lost his battle almost 4 yrs ago also same main cause
Please accept my sincere condolences on your loss Chrisj You have had some big blows in your life, your faith will help you as it has in the past
you will always have your memories of good times with dad
I have saved his voicemail messages on my phone and downloaded em to my computer, Same with mom and the kids.
My breath catches when I listen to it still
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« Reply #8 on: February 28, 2017, 05:26:11 PM » |
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Sorry Chris, it's hard. Been there, done that. Prayers for peace and healing coming your way from Indiana. |
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« Reply #9 on: February 28, 2017, 05:29:31 PM » |
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Sorry to hear Jeff will be kept in prayers!
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« Reply #10 on: February 28, 2017, 05:32:26 PM » |
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Saw my dad after he had his stroke. Wish now I Hadn't. Tried without much success to remember him as he was before the stroke. Prayers up Chris for you and your family. RIDE SAFE.
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« Reply #11 on: February 28, 2017, 05:50:02 PM » |
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Very Sorry
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« Reply #12 on: February 28, 2017, 06:11:33 PM » |
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condolences for the family...
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« Reply #13 on: February 28, 2017, 06:22:27 PM » |
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Sorry for your loss. Lost my Dad in '08. What I wouldn't give if I had the chance to hear his tales again that I thought were so redundant back when.
God bless you and your family.
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« Reply #14 on: February 28, 2017, 06:24:41 PM » |
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I won't lie and say I know how you feel... I'm blessed to not yet know what you're feeling right now, and hope I don't for a very long time, but I can imagine, and that's enough... May you find peace and comfort right now... |
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« Reply #15 on: February 28, 2017, 06:30:54 PM » |
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JEFF, I am so sorry to hear about your loss. You are right, no matter how much you prep yourself for the inevitable you are never truly ready when that time comes. My condolences to you and your family. Keep your head up and remember him as he would want you to. I will keep you in my heart and prayers
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« Reply #16 on: February 28, 2017, 06:37:23 PM » |
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Jeff sorry to hear, yes the loss of a parent even if you know its coming is very hard.
prayers sent.
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« Reply #17 on: February 28, 2017, 06:38:26 PM » |
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Chris - I'm sorry.
I wish I could have been there for either of my parent's passing away, but it was just not possible.
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« Reply #18 on: February 28, 2017, 06:45:16 PM » |
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Condolences for your family. Yes, it is hard.
11 years ago, this coming March 23. Was by his side, with my mother, while he drew his last breath. It was hard to watch, and I don't wish it for anyone. But death is part of life, none of us get out of here alive.
It will get better. Hopefully you will never forget. With family/loved ones support, this too shall pass, and you will smile again.
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« Reply #19 on: February 28, 2017, 06:54:10 PM » |
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Very sorry to here this Jeff. My Dad died in 1986. The great memories help.
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« Reply #20 on: February 28, 2017, 07:07:19 PM » |
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Chris, I feel your pain,, my dad died of the same thing and I like you could only be around so long because I couldnt handle watching him go down hill like he did..I only have one regret and that is I never told him I loved him..he passed in 87 and was 57 years old,, so yea, i feel for ya and will be sending prayers your way..
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« Reply #21 on: February 28, 2017, 07:10:08 PM » |
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My sincere condolence, Jeff. It is so hard to say good-bye. |
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« Reply #23 on: February 28, 2017, 07:22:07 PM » |
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I am so so sorry to hear about your Dad Jeff. You and Judy are in mine and Linda's prayers.  I hate for what my son's are going to go through in a few short years from now with me...that weighs on me alot...but they're still young and strong. Prayers to you and yours Jeff. |
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« Reply #24 on: February 28, 2017, 07:27:19 PM » |
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I'm aware of your sorrow, I went through that Dec. 27, 1999. He was 93, his b'day was November 9. The previous August, my wife and I were on our way back from a bike trip to northern N. Mexico and we went out of our way to stop and see him. I was so glad I did, it was the last time I saw him alive. I always remember one of the things he used to tell me: "Be careful how you live. You may well be the only Bible some people will ever read." He wasn't the originator of that, but it describes his life in full. It's tough to see someone go from being a lively & healthy person to one that can't raise their head from the pillow. Prayers for strength during these difficult times. |
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« Reply #25 on: February 28, 2017, 07:38:00 PM » |
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Be thankful for all the years you had with your Dad and all the memories you have of him and with him.
I lost my Dad when I was barely 18.
Time heals all wounds? It does not. What time does is allow a transition from grief to, hopefully, smiles and memories of the great times shared by you and your Dad.
Sincerely hope this transition is short for you and your family and that you begin to share smiles and stories of him real soon.
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« Reply #26 on: February 28, 2017, 07:50:42 PM » |
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My condolences, Jeff. I think you made the right choice to have a positive last memory of your Dad.
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« Reply #27 on: February 28, 2017, 08:03:43 PM » |
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I'm sorry to hear of the loss of your dad. As you said it's tough even when you know it's coming. I hope the sorrow passes over your family quickly.
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« Reply #28 on: February 28, 2017, 09:10:34 PM » |
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Aw man, I'm really sorry to hear that. Best wishes to you and your family.
Ride Safe,
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« Reply #29 on: March 01, 2017, 03:21:22 AM » |
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Warm thoughts and Prayers from East China Mi.
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« Reply #30 on: March 01, 2017, 04:59:44 AM » |
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Chris, you have my condolences.
Even though you know it is coming, yes it is still very hard. For most, our Mother and Father are the most important and loved people in life, during our formative years and beyond. We as humans, no matter what we tell ourselves. Can never be truly ready for their loss.
Take care.
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« Reply #31 on: March 01, 2017, 05:29:16 AM » |
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My prayers are with you and your family. Lost my dad in 95 and still miss him but lots of great memories.
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« Reply #32 on: March 01, 2017, 05:54:18 AM » |
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Sorry, brother. Peace, love, and strength to you all.
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« Reply #33 on: March 01, 2017, 05:59:51 AM » |
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So sorry for your loss Jeff.
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« Reply #34 on: March 01, 2017, 06:32:31 AM » |
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Very sorry for your loss, Jeff.
Even when it's expected, it is hard to take. While time doesn't heal, it certainly makes it easier.
I know.
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« Reply #35 on: March 01, 2017, 07:07:13 AM » |
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Very sorry for your loss.
Prayers are with you, my friend.
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« Reply #36 on: March 01, 2017, 07:23:46 AM » |
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Thanks everyone. It really helps having support from people that matter to you. As was said in recent posts, Lord knows I have some differences with some members. It's not as personal as it is about the issue the majority of the time. However, each and every one that's has a connection to our Valkyrie family is important to me.
Ride safe and if you love someone, tell them
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« Reply #37 on: March 01, 2017, 07:36:56 AM » |
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Sincere condolences from Sindee and I.
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« Reply #38 on: March 01, 2017, 07:50:05 AM » |
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Sorry to hear about your father.
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« Reply #39 on: March 01, 2017, 02:59:56 PM » |
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Sorry for your loss Jeff.
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