neighbor collapsed tonight

[cookiedough]

sure hope he is o.k. only age 57 or so but he liked to heavily, REALLY heavily drink to the point of being drunker than a skunk weekly if not near daily and smoked as well.  Wife is the same way and they had an oopsie baby now age 9.  Pretty sad since the 9 year old my daughter use to babysit told me and her past year or so she wants mommy and daddy to quit drinking and smoking since she knows better.  I hope this mishap changes their ways for the sake of the 9 year old girl. 

Fire truck/emt and police car were over there for 30 minutes or so.  My wife who does facebook found out by going onto our counties facebook page that posts where they were summoned to and when stating man collaped but breathing is all it said on our street.

it is one thing to drink, but to drink that much hard liquor near daily am sure will catch up to the best of us sooner or later.   His wife came up to me drunker than a skunk for no reason this summer and came over and hugged me and blabbered slurring her speech badly and he just yelled at her to tell her to get back over there.  Was an odd moment indeed since was totally unexpected no idea why she did it at all minding my own business outside my house?

[SpidyJ]

Alcohol is a powerful drug.  Has taken many good men and women down.

I'm allergic, had to give it up.  

Jails, Institutions or Death are the choices unless they stop drinking.

Just pray nobody else gets hurt on their way down to the bottom floor.

[Bigwolf]

Cookiedough,
If the opportunity comes up, tell the 9 year old about Al-Anon and Alateen.  Al-Anon is for friends and families of alcoholics and alateen is the same for teens.  The mental scars from growing up in that kind of atmosphere can last a lifetime and it takes help from others that have been through it if ever to overcome that damage.  She can find Al-Anon here: https://al-anon.org

Bigwolf

[f6john]

Kids deserve our best. So many don’t receive it. Hope you can be a positive influence for the little girl, she needs lol the help she can get.

[Robert]

My grandfather on my fathers side drank and beat my father and left permanent damage to a good man. My grandmother on my mothers side drank and she left the scars of drinking on her family. I used to go visit her at lunch time till one day I found she was drunk and never went back. One of my girlfriends parents drank and beat the kids and the same thing left permanent marks physically and mentally. Hell they didnt have enough money for food or living and spending it on drinking was unbelievable.  One business owner I knew drank and blamed it on vertigo and that was the end of his 35 year old business and maybe the rest of his life is gone. Drugs or alcohol either way its the same thing.

I Made a pack along time ago with myself that if I had to drink to have a good time, there was something wrong.

Well there may have been one good thing from drinking a man down the street came home from drinking with his wife and laid down in his bed to watch the game a few hours later his wife came in and found him non responsive, the funeral was one week later. He died peacefully in his sleep so maybe the alcohol had a good effect this time. He was a good man though and while a drinker kept his life in order and always provided a home for his wife and kids.

An occasional drink is ok and there is no condemnation on those that do. I find the benefit not good enough and the cost to high for me personally.

I would be afraid to tell the government anything about a household that may be unfit and have the kids taken away unless its a really terrible situation for the kids. Many of the foster homes they are placed in are not much better than the original situation.

It may have been the best thing in this situation that he may not be around anymore and maybe the mother will be able to straighten herself out. But pray for them, its the only thing that I have seen that makes people come to their senses enough to want to get help.

Let me make a suggestion that you may or maynot want to take on, offer to take care of the kid when the mother needs to do things or go out. It may open the door for you to help the kid in the time you have her and give the mother the time to go off and do what she wants and you may be surprised at the outcome if allowed to go on.

[old2soon]

As a former smoker drinker rec drug user let me just say folks like I used to be will ONLY quit when we are ready. Once in a great while spouses and children Might help with the decision-BUT I wouldn't hold my breath. NOT as callous as this might sound just a moment of truth from someone who has been there done that got the lung scars and constant daily reminders of HOW bad I effed up in my early years. I wish them both well for the sake of the child. At 57 thinkin his chance of a wake up call is extremely thin. I PRAY I am wrong on the wake up call. The fact I'm still suckin wind comin up on 73 Never ceases to amaze me! Thank You GOD. RIDE SAFE.

[Pappy!]

It took my neighbor, Randy, a few months ago. One of the nicest neighbors ever. Heavy drinker, takes care of his Mom (also a drinker) and was a music lover for sure.
He and a buddy drank heavily over at the house until about 2AM. Randy went to bed, got up, fell and hit his head on the tub, made it back to bed and apparently drowned on his own vomit. Very tragic and unnecessary death.

[John Schmidt]

My father-in-law was a heavy drinker, at one time we lived just a couple blocks away and I forbade my girls from going over there when he was home. Really PO'd him but I didn't care, when he was drinking he was like Archie Bunker only more obnoxious and verbally abusive. One day at home he just quietly told my mother-in-law to "be sure the boys stay in school"....then flopped over sideways on the couch and was gone. As for drinking, I/we might have a partial glass of wine once a week....if that often. Rita's family was here for T'giving and left half a six pack of Corona in the fridge....it's still there. When it's hot out, Rita sometimes likes a little really cold beer so has me pick up a six pack of Coronita....small 7oz. bottles. We've had most of a six pack for a couple months now, maybe the extra aging will make it taste better.  When it comes time to open one of those 7oz. bottles we split it, thereby launching us into a wild drunken orgy. 

Obviously I'm poking fun, but to me the term Happy Hour refers to the next morning when I awaken and am not suffering through a hangover.

[solo1]

I got my drinking over with in the Army.  I quit smoking shortly after that.  I like one glass of anything, wine or beer with dinner and occasionally a Chivas Regal and soda but that's it.

My wife didn't drink.  Her dad drank to excess and she was afraid it could be 'catching' and i think she was right.  Her brother's kids are into it and never post without a drink in their hand.  I don't think that they can party without liquor.

I had to work with a drunk at a store when I was a kid. This guy drank a half pint in one breath and then  would stagger into the back room mumbling to himself and working on another one. He later set the store on fire.  He must've had something on the owner as he wasn't fired.

[Gavin_Sons]

i worked with a drunk while i was in high school. When i worked weekends with him he would come in saturday morning already drunk. At lunch he would go get a 24 pack from the liquor store, would drink half for his lunch then the other half on his drive home. He got to the point of needing a liver transplant. Was on the waiting list a whole 3 months before he died. He never quit drinking up to the day he died. They say he was drunk when he died. Now i have a neighbor that is a huge drunk. She yells and screams at nothing and sometimes her husband. Leaves in the car all drunk. I had words with her husband, told him if she runs over any of these kids in the neighborhood I would personally beat him to within an inch of his life and when he got out of the hospital i'd do it again. The cops are over there all the time but she continues to drink and carry on. I'll put a stop to it this spring when we are outside more. Even if i have to back one of my vehicles out in front of her to get her caught. A little damage to my vehicle is worth the life of one of the kids.

[cookiedough]

yah, the 9 year old use to come over all the time and play with us while her parents drank and smoke.  Not so much anymore though.  Am sure if they need anything they will tell me but do not want to meddle in their business since they are grownups older than me and hopefully will tame it down a little soon.  

I guess latest update was he was in hospital today getting checked over.  My one kid has moms cell phone number and facebook, etc. which I do not do.  what is odd in a way though is he inherited from his dad his insurance company and he owns it for a long time now and has all kinds of money spending 60K to renovate a 120K home and bought a 40K tri-toon boat top of the line and owns a new mini-home along Mississippi River they go every weekend to in the summer where the boat is.  I guess spending money like it is going out of style can get people to drink lots more than they should?   Am sure his wife likes to spend money as well which could lead someone to drink tons as well...    Do not know too many people who can just blow 100K in a year or so.   I guess the insurance business is BOOMING!   I got a quote from his company for the heck of it on home and autos and I can by the high rates they came back with see how he can afford 100K blown in one year...