Sex Education in 5th grade

[Alien]

The thread about NJ teaching certain sexual practices in 8th grade got me thinking.  This is nothing new.  Back in 1985, we were taught sex-ed in 5th grade, so we were about 10 years old.  It was a big deal, parents were mailed a letter containing the curriculum and had to sign permission slips for the one day class.

It started with the boys and grls in the library watching a very dry, clinical animated movie explaining both male and female anatomy, puberty, hormones, sex and pregnancy.  This was followed by a short live action film of a birth taking place.

At the conclusion of the film, the boys were taken into a classroom with two male teachers and the girls were taken into a different classroom with two female teachers for Q&A.

Since we legitimately knew NOTHING about sex (other than what someone's older brother may have said), the questions were all over the place.

After it was over, my best friend (still my best friend today) and I were walking home, talking about what we had seen that day and decided that girls were gross and sex was gross and childbirth was gross and we wanted nothing to do with any of it.  I remember not being able to look my mom or sisters in the eye that night, thinking about how their bodies were so bizarre, flashing back to the childbirth video and making the connection that my mom had actually gone through that with each of us.

Fast forward a few years and my friend and I had a totally different view of girls and sex.    One thing though, neither of us ever caught a disease or got anyone pregnant and I think that's at least, in part due to the education we recieved.  

Ride Safe,

Alien

[da prez]

  I'm quite a bit older than you. I vaguely remember the sex education class. I had to ask my dad how the woman got pregnant. They did not cover that part. I had a lot of questions on the way home.
  Times have changed.  In high school I remember of only one girl being pregnant in our second year . There were stories of some other girls moving to other schools.  Later we found out why.
 It was always the girls fault???? 

                                                      da prez

[Jess from VA]

I had zero sex ed in school.  (except a bit of kissing and petting in the dark corners a couple times)

My folks never mentioned it, but gave me 3 small book pamphlets, about a year apart.

Each pamphlet was too late for what I had already learned myself.  In more polite, scientific terms.

I knew it embarrassed them, and it would have embarrassed me to ask them anything.

Somewhere in Jr Hi after I had a couple mom-drive-us dates to bowling or movies, my dad did give me a brief but stern lecture on NO MEANS NO.  I took that one to heart.  

I'm pretty sure a couple no's weren't very serious, but that was the end of that, every time.  Especially after a friend of mine knocked up two girls I had dated earlier that said no in HS.  But he was an asshole.

[Alien]

Yep.  Dad made it real clear what he'd do if he ever heard I was disrespectful to a girl.  He wasn't a very hard line parent but when it came to that and drugs he made clear threats if I were to step over the line.  I could tell he meant it and I never crossed either line to this day.

[Alien]

One thing I remember my dad saying is "I better never hear of you honking your horn to pick up a girl.  If you can't get out of the car and look her father in the eye, you don't deserve to date her." 

My dad's a great guy and I owe my entire moral compass to him.

[ridingron]

One thing I remember my dad saying is "I better never hear of you honking your horn to pick up a girl.  If you can't get out of the car and look her father in the eye, you don't deserve to date her."    

One of my sister's dates did the honk the horn routine. The second time he honked the horn, my father went out and had a chat with the lad. My sister spent that Saturday night at home. Never had the horn honking routine again.

[Patrick]

' But he was an asshole. '

For some reason the assholes got all the ass.

[Jess from VA]

' But he was an asshole. '

For some reason the assholes got all the ass.

Not entirely.  My other best friend was just a loving teddy bear who all the girls loved and he got more than anyone I ever heard of.  Never pushy or insistent or abusive, but probably a gifted romeo.  He even had a senior (in HS) offer it up to him in her car when he was in 8th grade.  It was a mistake rooming with him freshman year in college.  I was there to study at get grades and he was there to bring every willing girl back to our tiny dorm room. 

[cookiedough]

seems about the right time for 'the talk' .    I was never a ladies man nor did I really care to be in high school/middle school.  A few in our class of 44 total think they were 'special' though.  I guess that is why 4 of our 20 or so total females in our graduating class all got knocked up their senior year while still in high school with 1 of them having the kid while still in high school senior year.  I guess our sex ed class in 5th or 6th grade failed them?  One in our class was pretty HOT and she knew it but she was going with another guy in our class pretty hot and heavy ended up getting married having kids, etc. still married today.  I could have had her easily at a house party my junior/senior year she was plastered and whispered in my ear to go upstairs with her but knowing she would not remember a thing drunker than a skunk,  I passed.    Am sure her now husband back then in my same small class would have found out about it somehow and me and him did not get along him all cocky and arrogant.  Plus, she has been ridden hard and put away wet by several other fellows that I know while in high school and if I followed thru,  am sure he would have tried beating me up killing him eventually pretty easily.  The few REAL fights I got into at high school did not end well for the other fellow or fellows me taking on 3 at once in my same class in their click group who thought they were special.  The other 2 backed down after I knocked out the 1 not moving.    Got sent to the principal's office a few times over fighting but Dad always said stand up for myself and never pick a fight, but always end them.  Never got suspended was self defense and principal knew it by the clicky group they were in he probably wanted to shake my hand and say good job but knew he could not.   

A few heavy serious fights (cops called) happened with kids older than me and it was always another guy screwing another girlfriend of someone in their same or similar classmates and coming from a small town of 1000 people with 30-40 kids in a graduating class EVERYONE knows what happened.  That one fight in my 4 year older brothers class between the 2 guys over the girl 1 year older than me was not good, cops called in.  That same girl I could of had as well since we both drove to college together taking turns driving a few years to college and we liked each other and pretty sure she liked me but did not want to cross that line (although I wanted to she was nice both body and mind) for her now husband of 1 of the 2 that got into a fight would have come after me am sure of it.  OH well, missed chances but coming from a small town where everyone knows each other's business would it have been worth it?   

I am fearful of my neighbors girl now entering 7th grade she is an attention _hore just like her mom is two peas in a pod and both her parents are drunks not paying attention to her at all.   She never does stuff with parents but goes around our small town 'socializing' with the boys.  2 boys her same age just yesterday were in front of their house next door 'chatting' with her outside,  me in my yard and could tell they were flirting with one another.  Her parents slightly older than me in their 50's could soon become an early grandpa in another couple years?    How do I know her mom is like that?  Well,  she came over one day a couple years ago drunker than a skunk slurring her speech and was blabbering to me putting her arms around my shoulder blabbering who knows what and her husband, also drunk but not as bad,  grabbed her and drug her home saying that is enough.     

[scooperhsd]

Sometimes it is SO HARD to be the adult....

[cookiedough]

Sometimes it is SO HARD to be the adult....

Agree,  I had a lot of high school year book signings that said to loosen up and not be so serious all the time.  I was pretty much a loaner in high school did not hang out in the cliquey crowd nor attended many house parties or even homecomings/proms.  Only thing I missed about high school was playing football could have skipped the rest for sure.  To see my older neighbors sitting outside drinking until plastered 55-60 years old near daily to me is sad for them all the while ignoring their 7th grade girl.  I was outside today washing my ATV after trip upnorth last week and saw a new white Cadillac Escalade pull up in their driveway dropping their daughter off from a 'playdate' am sure, and 5 minutes later she was gone out riding her bicycle with the other younger neighbor girls. She never stays home nor does a single thing with them as a family that I know of.   When she was younger age 4-6 she use to come over all the time and want to chat with us near daily since parents did nothing with her.  Now with her in middle school,  she thinks she can run around all over town never home much.  I guess not so bad as long as her parents know where she is hanging out at???????