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f6john
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« on: April 05, 2023, 02:16:53 PM »

Visited with a friend and brother in Christ, this afternoon who is living with terminal cancer. People who are dying (all of us in one respect) who know their end date is near can be a real inspiration. My wife had made some egg drop soup and a dessert concoction she came up with and he so so appreciative knowing his stomach may not be able to tolerate it all. We talked some about his condition as I related it was hard to know how he was feeling and whether visits would be appropriate or not. Then we talked about cars, motorcycles, jeeps, dune buggies, motorcycles and a lot of things that really don’t matter at his stage of like but it was good for both of us to reminisce about years gone by.

A year and a half ago we had never met but I now count him as a tremendous addition to my life story. His wife succumbed to cancer just a few months ago so he has been left to see to tying up all the loose ends from a lifetime together and not leave a mess for his kids. He knows where he is going, he’s making plans, he’s looking forward to seeing his wife again, he’s ready, what a way to go.
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Valkorado
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« Reply #1 on: April 05, 2023, 04:28:27 PM »

Good on you (and your wife)!  angel   cooldude

You may not be lifelong friends, but you are a good and steadfast friend.  I think the time you spent together was valuable for you both!  May he remain in continued good spirits and comfort.
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Rams
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« Reply #2 on: April 05, 2023, 05:28:53 PM »

Everyone needs a friend, I'm glad you were there for him.

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f6john
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Richmond, Kentucky


« Reply #3 on: April 07, 2023, 05:42:09 PM »

Judy made up a batch of noodles thinking Tom could handle them and had me call about 7 CST and found out Tom was waiting on a visit from Hospice. Not what I was wanting to hear. I was planning another visit to his house for tomorrow it doubtful he’ll be there. I’m hoping his kids will show up this weekend as none are really local.

I’m sad for myself but not for him, I will miss him greatly but he will out of pain and at rest with his wife.
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carolinarider09
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« Reply #4 on: April 07, 2023, 05:56:40 PM »

Visited with a friend and brother in Christ, this afternoon who is living with terminal cancer. People who are dying (all of us in one respect) who know their end date is near can be a real inspiration. My wife had made some egg drop soup and a dessert concoction she came up with and he so so appreciative knowing his stomach may not be able to tolerate it all. We talked some about his condition as I related it was hard to know how he was feeling and whether visits would be appropriate or not. Then we talked about cars, motorcycles, jeeps, dune buggies, motorcycles and a lot of things that really don’t matter at his stage of like but it was good for both of us to reminisce about years gone by.

A year and a half ago we had never met but I now count him as a tremendous addition to my life story. His wife succumbed to cancer just a few months ago so he has been left to see to tying up all the loose ends from a lifetime together and not leave a mess for his kids. He knows where he is going, he’s making plans, he’s looking forward to seeing his wife again, he’s ready, what a way to go.

Excellent story.   Just the beginning of his next journey.     
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« Reply #5 on: April 08, 2023, 08:25:22 AM »

 angel What a great story John. A "Brother in Christ" is an Awesome relationship even if you've only known him for a short while on this earth. So sorry for your friends loss of his wife to cancer and now his own health concerns. Glad you and the wife got a visit in with him before he leaves for his Glory in Heaven and his wife's arms. Prayers for your friend Tom and for you and Judy. See you at InZane and who knows maybe I can go get another breakfast with you and Charlie. I think it was 2018 at Roanoke InZane where we met and made that breakfast.  coolsmiley
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« Reply #6 on: April 09, 2023, 08:23:32 AM »

My brother passed couple years ago, also cancer. He said to me during our last conversation, " I don't know what everyone is worried about, I'm ready to see Grandma Rene "(our grandmother). He was very peaceful and calm. I think they know something we dont.
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f6john
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« Reply #7 on: April 09, 2023, 05:18:45 PM »

This was quick. I spoke with Tom briefly yesterday, dropped off some chicken for the family this afternoon, Tom died about 6:30 cst this evening.
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Valkorado
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« Reply #8 on: April 10, 2023, 09:34:56 AM »

My brother passed couple years ago, also cancer. He said to me during our last conversation, " I don't know what everyone is worried about, I'm ready to see Grandma Rene "(our grandmother). He was very peaceful and calm. I think they know something we dont.

The "big guy" who trod this rock over two thousand years ago had me believing this by faith, but a man named Darby HagE shared his story -- his experience -- with me on a ride years ago.  It was all the convincing I'll ever need.

Many years ago Darby had colon issues (diverticulitis) that developed into severe infection landing him in the emergency room with sepsis, and ultimately in Paradise.  The ER crew reeled him in, and coming out of surgery he asked a nurse why they brought him back here.  I don't know how to explain this -- his face shone when he attempted to describe the indescribable -- Paradise -- to me.  His longing to return someday was as plain as the mustache on his face.  There was an obvious void within Darby that we mortals probably can't fully understand.  He'd been there, done that.  Now he was back.  Conversely we've been here all along, and are askeered to leave.

Don't get me wrong, Darby was living a life that he loved, with people he loved.  He had Godly plans and dreams for his future.  But it was clear to me that he was suffering from a deep withdrawal.  Not that he was agonizing about mortal life, but I do remember him speaking of those of us struggling and scrambling through this life.  He said something like, "poor people".

Darby passed away after suffering head injuries following a Colorado group ride.  He is home again, and nobody is bringing him back here again.  He is tickled pink about that.
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Have you ever noticed when you're feeling really good,
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« Reply #9 on: April 11, 2023, 06:32:48 PM »

    When I was still in Texas with 1st Wife and Family my Mom and Dad came down for a visit. The day Mom and Dad left I drove them to the airport in Srevesport La. Dad was in a wheelchair at that time and in his gruff manner told me to wheel himwhere we could talk privately. He told me He'd heard the old steam powered trains-his Dad was a Railroad man-and he also informed me He'd never see me or my Children or My Wife again. 3 months later Dad passed.
     I have a Lady Friend from Chrch in a Nursing home I've been visiting fairly regular and doing my best as Her own Children rarely visit. I've tried to get her back to the Church we attend But she is not up to it. I was leaving middle Easter service from our Church and in the portico on the way out my Friend Jackie was in her wheelchair being pushed by her S I L. And today in the nursing home Jackie came out of her room for the Tuesday Gospel Singinging/Church service. She has NOT said anything But I wonder if She KNOWS her time gittin close.
      Far as that cancer goes I wish/hope /PRAY they learn SOONEST how to erdicate all cancers. it has taken too many people too soon. RIDE SAFE.
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