Different philosophy on that oil seal........I take great pains to keep the seal and the metal mating surface very clean....no grease on the seal, the groove, or the back side, just clean and dry, and I have 122K miles of perfect pinion splines, never a displaced seal or dry teeth.......just how I have done it.....looking in the Honda book grease is only indicated on the splines themselves.
You're right about the manual being silent on the oil seal. It doesn't address seating it at all.
I agree with you in that most people over-grease the pinion cup. The manual only calls for 0.02 ounces on the shaft splines and only 0.08 oz in the pinion cup itself.
I should have noted that putting grease in the groove of the seal and the bead around the outside was my personal preference. Like you, I've never had a problem with it coming out, but who knows since I'm only halfway to your 122k!
I believe the real key to the longevity of the rear end is frequent maintenance of the entire drive line.