Kids using foul language around my Family

[Gangman036]

How do you handle it? I can't just sit there and look at my 12 yr old son while some uneducated 18-25 yr old idiot drops the "F" bomb all over the place. I've tried asking politely and some times it works......most of the time they interpret kindness for weakness. I'm 6' 1"and  270lbs. And still that doesn't deter them. I don't want to go to jail or even get into a physical confrontation.

How do you deal with these idiots?

[3W-lonerider]

how i deal with it..i tell them politely next time it comes out of their lips..they can leave the house and not come back till they can control themselves.

[Varmintmist]

Slap their parents?

Usually I remark that that is proper language, for a ditch digger. If it doesn't sink in, say loudly to your kid something on the order of "See what happens when you can't learn to speak English?"

[buffalobill]

My Grandma always said "it is just an ignorant mind, trying to express itself" Than she would wash your mouth out with soap while holding you tighter than a liberal on your wallet.

[The Anvil]

A few years back I was at a McDonald's Playplace when a couple of d-bag teenagers rode up on their bicycles, came inside sat down and started cursing. I asked nicely. Twice. The third time I was more stern and told them there would be no more asking or warnings. I think they took at as a challenge and shortly thereafter they started cursing again. I got up and walked into the restaurant proper and as I was going I heard one of the little smart asses say "ooh, he's gonna go tell on us!"

Not exactly.

I walked outside and grabbed their bikes and began letting air out of the tires. They come running out yelling "get the f**k away from my bike!"

"Make me" I said and a staring match accompanied by the hiss of escaping air commenced. They went back inside and had an employee call the cops. I finished letting the air out of their tires, went back inside and calmly sat down. The cops came and got their side first. They came in and talked to me and got my side (corroborated by a few reliable witnesses). He looks at one of the little bitches and says "looks like you're walkin" and they left.  

I'm also quite friendly with the cops in my town. I dunno how much that ultimately helped but I'm hard pressed to think of an actual crime I may have committed.

[RoadKill]

knock them on their ass and then deny it !

[John Schmidt]

"....holding you tighter than a liberal on your wallet."

LMAO, best one I've heard in a long time, have to remember that. As for the language, my dad used to say it's a lazy person's method of expressing themselves. When it comes to being exposed to it in public, it can be difficult. If it happens to be coming from a nearby table/booth in a restaurant and it's one we frequent, I don't hesitate to say something to the people in charge. I usually get results too. Other times, I've simply asked them to cool it with the language. If I get some attitude, I hold up my cell phone and ask again. The local cops will respond to such things and do so effectively....sometimes all I have to do is hand the culprit the phone and the person that took the call will speak to them. Recently we happened to have two girls sit down nearby after we had been there for a time, their mouth was absolute garbage. I was totally surprised when my wife suddenly got up and walked over and asked them if they eat with that mouth. Then told them she would appreciate it if they either cleaned up their act to match their appearance, or move to a different table. They were astounded, apologized profusely, and we never heard another peep out of them using the same language.

[Psychotic Bovine]

"Profanity is the crutch of a conversational cripple." ~ Jay Alexander

Of course, I say this, but I do swear. 

[Lyn-Del]

I've had some success, pretty much broke the guys at the bike shop of it -- asked if they knew other adjectives, or repeated what they'd said without the embellishments.  Turns out it's not very descriptive.

[Walküre]

I have a big problem with it, also, first with my kids, and now, with the grandkids. I'll inevitably say something, if I think I can at all take them, if I have to, or if there's enough "guts" in the room, that I'll have back-up, if it comes to that. And it's usually something to the effect of "Hey guys, I know you have the right to say whatever you want, and I served in the military, to make SURE you have that right, but one thing you have to understand...YOUR rights end exactly at the point that MINE begin, and while I'm here with my family, MY rights begin, with you having enough respect, not to talk like that in front of them. How's about keeping the language down to how you'd talk in front of your mom?". It usually shuts them up, and I've only had to back it up, once. Learned it from my dad, who also never allowed it around OUR family. And believe me, I've always stood by what MY dad told me - "Hit first, hit fast, hit last!!".

Do recall one time, on the Colorado River when I was a LOT younger - pretty busy afternoon, lot's of kids, etc, and there was one guy who had a hat on that just said, in BIG letters, "F**K YOU!". Everyone pretty much kept their distance, but as the day wore on, he got pretty drunk, and was being pretty loud and generally obnoxious. Some guy from another group finally walked up to him, and cold-cocked him, one punch and he dropped like a stone. The guy pointed his finger at him, and said, slowly, "noooo......f**K YOU!", and walked away. The guy put away the hat, and behaved the rest of the day.

As I get older, I think there's probably more of the younger ones, that I can't take, but I would have NO problems, doing whatever it takes to stop it - talking to management, calling some big friends - you get the picture.

R

[SANDMAN5]

Last year I worked some OT on another shift. Young guy (mid 20's) had one
of the worst "potty mouths" I've ever been around. I asked him who he was
trying to impress with that kind of language. He said "I ain't trying to f*^#%&!
impress no G*^^%#@ body". I said "Well it's working great cause nobody is
impressed." Don't know if it helped any, but everyone around got a kick
out of it.

[G-Man]

Was on the NYC subway commuting home after work and a few idiot kids got on the train and threw cruses and the "N" word around continually.  There was a older woman (probably Grandma) and a little girl sitting right near these idiots.  The woman asked them if they could stop because the little girl was hearing all their garbage.  One of them started yelling and cursing at the woman.  I exploded and the next thing the kid saw was a 6'4" figure with a fist in his face.  I said very sternly "Not another word!"  All his tougness just drained out of his pathetic body and he began to slink away.  I said "Not yet, first apologize".  He did and then walked away.  And the whole time, the other 3 or 4 idiots didn't say a word.

Another time I was shopping in JC Penny and was paying at the register.  The phone behind the counter rang and the clerk answered it "Yo "N", when you going for lunch?".  I left the merchandise on the counter and walked out of the store.  I'm sure the company is pleased with what they have representing them.

It's a complete lack of respect for themselves, each other, society, and history.  Yes, when we were teenagers we cursed and were loud.  I do think we controlled ourselves better based on where we were and what we were doing.  But, we weren't disrespectful.  And we always complied if asked to keep it under control.

[czuch]

I just ask. usually works.  If they get peacocky I just tell Mr. Mouth the best line paraphrased from the Duke," No matter what happens, no matter who starts what, youre gonna get it the worst".

[Popeye]

Years ago, standing in line at a carnival in town, bunch of young kids were letting it fly, trying to be cool. There were a bunch of people with young kids including me.  I asked one kid to watch his mouth. Another one pipes up "Your not his dad" I went nose to nose wit the second kid, told him to shut his mouth.  He backed up a bit and said he was sorry.  It stopped after that.  A couple of people thanked me.

[Jack]

I usually just tell them to shut the F@#$ up or I'll break their puny F'n neck. 

[The Anvil]

I usually just tell them to shut the F@#$ up or I'll break their puny F'n neck. 

If you say it with a British accent you'll get your point across without sounding ign'ant.

[Stanley Steamer]

I usually just tell them to shut the F@#$ up or I'll break their puny F'n neck. 

If you say it with a British accent you'll get your point across without sounding ign'ant.

We'll sic Britman on them!!.......

[Rowdy]

Interesting thread 
Had the same issue with my boys friends - my wife 5'6" asked them nicely - got a little sterner each time -    finally the boys close friends would tell new commers to watch the use of the F word when in the house -    She's been gone for 2 years and they still respect that house rule 

Not sure how it will go down if I have to tell them to control thier language in the house 

 

[musclehead]

A few years back I was at a McDonald's Playplace when a couple of d-bag teenagers rode up on their bicycles, came inside sat down and started cursing. I asked nicely. Twice. The third time I was more stern and told them there would be no more asking or warnings. I think they took at as a challenge and shortly thereafter they started cursing again. I got up and walked into the restaurant proper and as I was going I heard one of the little smart asses say "ooh, he's gonna go tell on us!"

Not exactly.

I walked outside and grabbed their bikes and began letting air out of the tires. They come running out yelling "get the f**k away from my bike!"

"Make me" I said and a staring match accompanied by the hiss of escaping air commenced. They went back inside and had an employee call the cops. I finished letting the air out of their tires, went back inside and calmly sat down. The cops came and got their side first. They came in and talked to me and got my side (corroborated by a few reliable witnesses). He looks at one of the little bitches and says "looks like you're walkin" and they left.  

I'm also quite friendly with the cops in my town. I dunno how much that ultimately helped but I'm hard pressed to think of an actual crime I may have committed.

I like it!!  I never had a problem, just told them once "hey guys, little ears over here" and thats all it took

[fudgie]

My partner has a 1 yr old. She's not sure whats she's gonna do when the baby gets old enough to repeat it! She said she will be using alot more at work and none at home.  I cuss and so does the ol lady. We just know where not to use it. I used it at work once in the back of the truck. Something bad happened really quick and it just slipped out. My partner laughed her head off at me.
Saw a patch on the back of a guys vest in Sturgis last year. 'Speak English or get the F&%# out!' Seem appropriate. 

[Jess from VA]

There was never a swear word in my home growing up.... by high school, I might hear "Hell's fire" if my dad hit his thumb with the hammer, but that was it. 

Back it up to when I'm four years old (1957) and go in the hospital for a hernia repair.  I had to stay on a child's (pediatric) ward for a few days afterward, and we had another little guy who knew every bad word in the book, who commenced to teach us how to swear.  I had never heard any of this in my life, and doubt any of the other kids had either.  So I get home and like any four year old, I am a parrot.  My mom stands up and says, 'mister, I don't know where you learned that language but we will never hear it out of you again,' and I got a bar of soap shoved in my mouth.  That was the only soap I ever received, and I forgot all those words as quickly as possible.

A while later, I am at the dinner table with extended family visiting.  Some of the older kids had been calling me a word I didn't understand.  So I politely asked, 'Dad, what's a turd?'  Several adults spit milk out their noses.  My dad smiled weakly, and said he'd explain it later.

[buffalobill]

Something I remember my Wrestling Coach say to one of my Loud mouth team mates, and he only had to say it once "Don't let your alligator mouth overload that hummingbird ass of yours"
When you are bigger, or at least intimidating, look 'em square in the eyes and repeat that.
I saw it work quite well

[The Anvil]

A few years back I was at a McDonald's Playplace when a couple of d-bag teenagers rode up on their bicycles, came inside sat down and started cursing. I asked nicely. Twice. The third time I was more stern and told them there would be no more asking or warnings. I think they took at as a challenge and shortly thereafter they started cursing again. I got up and walked into the restaurant proper and as I was going I heard one of the little smart asses say "ooh, he's gonna go tell on us!"

Not exactly.

I walked outside and grabbed their bikes and began letting air out of the tires. They come running out yelling "get the f**k away from my bike!"

"Make me" I said and a staring match accompanied by the hiss of escaping air commenced. They went back inside and had an employee call the cops. I finished letting the air out of their tires, went back inside and calmly sat down. The cops came and got their side first. They came in and talked to me and got my side (corroborated by a few reliable witnesses). He looks at one of the little bitches and says "looks like you're walkin" and they left.  

I'm also quite friendly with the cops in my town. I dunno how much that ultimately helped but I'm hard pressed to think of an actual crime I may have committed.

I like it!!  I never had a problem, just told them once "hey guys, little ears over here" and thats all it took

And that' usually enough for me too.

You know, there's a gas station not 1/2 a mile from where we were. These kids weren't inconvenienced to any major degree. The point was making them feel what's it's like to see someone doing something you don't appreciate and being powerless to stop it.