There are some articles on spark plugs located on the shop talk page (
http://www.valkyrieriders.com/shoptalk/ )
Carl Kulow's simple article will keep you out of trouble. As far as the proper plugs - I looked up what Honda suggested and went with that. I have pulled them twice and they look good. The plugs I removed were one selection hotter. Someone else may have something to say about what might be best.
Final drive oil is easy. You can see instructions for that on the Shop Talk page as well. Any good quality synthetic 75W-90 will work. I use Mobile and change it around every 10k miles.
Cheers!