I'm to the point where I must remove all of the intake bolts and remove the carb assembly. It looks as though the ENTIRE 6-pack comes out as 1 unit!

removed the PAIR valve controller but cannot get to the bolts holding the pair valves due to the cross brace that hold the carbs. I guess the carbs assembly must come out first...

I'm flying blind here....

Does Dag have a desmog video or carb removal video that I can watch?
or any type of guidline.
I have viewed the desmog guideline multiple times
http://www.valkyrieriders.com/shoptalk/desmog.htm, but it doesnt get into too much detail. (it just says remove this: remove that)
is there anything that explains this a little better for dummies?

I've desmogged two bikes and had no problems removing the pair valves. Be sure and remove all the hoses connected to the pair valves then see if you can remove the bolts. You don't have to remove that cross member. If you need more tools go to Harbor Freight and find what you need, adequate and inexpensive.
Definitely take the carb bank out as a unit. With the pair valve system removed and the intake tubes off, loosen the left motor mount so it can be moved back then the bank will come out at an angle. By the way taking it out from the right side has been good for me. Take your time and don't force anything. Patience will be a winner.