my 97 Valk quit a couple of weeks ago....and when i turned on the key, there was NOTHING...no lights, no power, no nothing. I trouble shot down to the starter reelay area....and when i checked it, i found the connector was melted/toast...the 30 amp fuse also melted/bad. As a temporary fix, i clean things up as BEST i could (it was a REAL mess)....and taped the heck out of everything. That got me back on the road.
I ordered a new reelay from amazon (for $10.50...instead of the 30-40 Honda wanted)...and then...the real challenge, finding a new connector. Not wanting to replace the WHOLE wiring harness...and not liking the "similar" connector mentioned in this thread earlier (the older Gold Wing connector that WILL work, but isn't the same)....i went on a search. I found this EXACT same connector on Ebay and ordrered it. It's coming from China. I ordered over a week ago...and have been tracking it. It left China...came to Chicago...and is coming in USPS this week. I SHOULD have it in time to do the "proper" fix this weekend. It has enough wire to splice into the existing wiring harness...with the correct connector. It was $15.95
Ebay link:
http://www.ebay.com/itm/300818976813?item=300818976813&viewitem=&sspagename=ADME:L:OU:US:3160&vxp=mtr#ht_1614wt_1161

it also comes with a cheaper reelay. I'm not going to use that reelay...but will use the one i got thru Amazon that looks like the Honda original one.
here is the Amazon link for the $10.50 reelay I will use with this connector (even though my current reelay works, it looks pretty rough on the connector part too)

link on Amazon:
http://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B007473OWI/ref=oh_details_o02_s00_i00?ie=UTF8&psc=1