Well - the poster I responded to already lives in NJ (I feel sorry for those who do).
Being honest, I have to ask why? We all live where we've decided to live.
There are always reasons but, we have the final decision.
I lived a lot of places I would have rather not lived there but did so because circumstances dictated it.
Even though I'm retired, the same is true. Different reasons but, they still exist. I don't feel sorry for anyone living anywhere, it's their decision to be and stay there.
Rams