Daniel Meyer
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« on: April 12, 2012, 12:23:19 PM » |
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The wife is headed for the east coast on a 1300 mile (each way) road trip.
Her mother passed away yesterday, after a long battle with Alzheimers. She's headed out to the funeral and to help her Dad straighten things up a bit.
It's been expected...the mother got last rites Saturday...she had not responded to anything in days...but during the rites, opened her eyes and said to the minister, "But...I've always been a good girl." Then nothing more.
Alzheimers sucks.
Yeah, expected. Still difficult. She's only in her 60's.
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« Reply #1 on: April 12, 2012, 12:35:40 PM » |
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way too young... condolences Daniel  |
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« Reply #2 on: April 12, 2012, 01:06:25 PM » |
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Sorry for your loss Daniel. Be the strength your wife needs.
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« Reply #3 on: April 12, 2012, 01:29:17 PM » |
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Sorry for your loss. I didn't know she was that young. Hay  Jimmyt |
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« Reply #4 on: April 12, 2012, 01:38:21 PM » |
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Very sorry for your loss, Daniel.
With the suffering over, let the healing begin.
-Dan
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« Reply #5 on: April 12, 2012, 01:49:34 PM » |
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...Thoughts and Prayers to you and your wife my friend...shes in a better place now...free of this horrible disease..
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« Reply #6 on: April 12, 2012, 02:05:32 PM » |
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Only in her 60's.
That sucks.
My stepmother suffered for the last 7 years of her life until her brain could take no more.
It's a terrible disease.
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« Reply #7 on: April 12, 2012, 02:10:22 PM » |
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Going thru the same thing with my step-father. Has a Phd. in Education and now, has to be led around. Alzheimer's is a thief of memories and existence. Prayers to the family over your loss, plus for Carey's safe journey to and back.
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« Reply #8 on: April 12, 2012, 02:37:06 PM » |
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So sorry for your loss. Many of us on this board are dealing with this with our aging parents, it DOES suck.
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« Reply #9 on: April 12, 2012, 02:50:21 PM » |
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yes, daniel, so sorry for your loss. God speed for your wife's trip and prayers up for y'all.
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« Reply #10 on: April 12, 2012, 03:06:52 PM » |
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« Reply #11 on: April 12, 2012, 03:13:14 PM » |
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Sorry for your loss. Safe travels for the wife. and you stay out of trouble.
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« Reply #12 on: April 12, 2012, 03:42:11 PM » |
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Many of us are dealing with difficult times indeed. That's much too young to lose someone, only in their 60's. Prayers for strength for the family, especially your wife.
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« Reply #13 on: April 12, 2012, 04:01:29 PM » |
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Prayers for you and the wife. I'm going through the same with my 93 yr old mother.
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« Reply #14 on: April 12, 2012, 04:21:06 PM » |
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Prayers for you your family and a safe trip. I have made that trip to NC many times. I lived near the Louisburg, Rocky Mount area. Too far to drive without discomfort.
see ya,
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« Reply #15 on: April 12, 2012, 04:24:11 PM » |
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Prayers out to your wife, her father and family! My Mom has Alzheimers and I have been her caregiver now for 3 years, although she has had the disease for alot longer, the courts said she needed a guardian/conservator and they picked me. I just had to put her in a nursing home, that was a very sad day indeed. Yes, this disease SUCKS!!! At least her Mom isn't suffering and confused any more. Hoping your wife has safe travels on her trip. Take Care!
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« Reply #16 on: April 12, 2012, 04:35:55 PM » |
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so sorry for your loss. like you said, it was expected but never easy.
thoughts and prayers for you wife as she travels and for the family.
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« Reply #17 on: April 12, 2012, 05:18:36 PM » |
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« Reply #18 on: April 12, 2012, 06:27:54 PM » |
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So sorry for your family's loss to this dreaded disease. My mom this past year was just diagnosed with altzheimers and dr. said she has probably had it the past 3-4 years unbeknown to us all. Dr. would not let her go home and had to put her into an assisted living home. Next week we are going to try to let her go home with daily in home care for an hour per day for now since she does not like being away from home the past 5 months going bankrupt. If this doesn't work out which I know it won't in the long run, it is going to be very, very difficult getting her back out of her house and into assisted living yet again. WE hope it works out and this disease doesn't get worse anytime soon since she is only 69 years old and otherwise in decent health physically. The real problem is she has no one to talk to nor friends to visit with just sitting in the house pretty much doing nothing besides search a word, cleaning, and watching TV since my dad passed away Xmas night in 2008. Loosing your mind is in many ways worse than going out with physical conditions and I know seems harder for us anyways to cope with it.
Wishing for your wife's safe trip as well and hope you all can find the strength to endure this terrible loss in your lives. take care!
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« Reply #19 on: April 12, 2012, 06:38:10 PM » |
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Really sorry for your families loss Daniel. Prays sent for you and yours.
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« Reply #20 on: April 12, 2012, 07:03:31 PM » |
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Understand. My wife's mother left this good green earth less than two years ago. Alzheimer's. Age mid '70s. Spent nine months in assisted living till the curtain call. Watched her rapidly decline on a monthly basis from a whole thinking person down to nothing -- the end. Was very difficult. Such is life. I guess. Thoughts with you and yours.
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« Reply #21 on: April 12, 2012, 07:07:34 PM » |
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May the Lord add healing to your hearts, sorry for your lost.
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« Reply #22 on: April 12, 2012, 07:08:40 PM » |
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Prayers from Colorado for your family.
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« Reply #23 on: April 12, 2012, 07:10:44 PM » |
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So sorry for your wifes mothers passing.
Praying for her safe journey.
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« Reply #24 on: April 12, 2012, 08:00:36 PM » |
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Daniel, so sorry for your loss. Unfortunately, the loss happens long before the person will pass. Alzheimers seems to be kicking in on more and more these days. Our family has been touched by this, also. My Mother in law has been suffering with this for a number of years. She is 69, and now is less than 100 lbs. I am guessing that she has little time left. It is so tragic to see one incrementally lose the abilities to do day to day things: balance a checkbook, to read, to reason, to speak. They become a different person, and this hurts all who love them. I hope your family can start to heal and get through this. |
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« Reply #25 on: April 13, 2012, 03:04:36 AM » |
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So sorry for your loss. Prayers going out to you and your family,,,,.....
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« Reply #26 on: April 13, 2012, 05:20:00 AM » |
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Daniel, sincere condolences to you, Carey and family during this most difficult time. Wishing her a safe journey there and back home again.
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« Reply #27 on: April 13, 2012, 05:38:55 AM » |
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Daniel, going through the exact same thing with my wife's mother. At least I can say and understand and I care. Our thoughts are with you. Larry
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« Reply #28 on: April 13, 2012, 05:39:31 AM » |
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Sad to hear about your loss. Prayers for you both.
Hollyday & ThagAndy
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« Reply #29 on: April 13, 2012, 06:38:50 PM » |
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So very sorry for your families loss.
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« Reply #30 on: April 13, 2012, 07:07:00 PM » |
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prayers of strenght and love for you, Carrie and her family......
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« Reply #31 on: April 13, 2012, 07:14:39 PM » |
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I'm saddened to read this, Daniel.
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« Reply #32 on: April 13, 2012, 09:57:14 PM » |
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Prayer's from Washington to you and your's.
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« Reply #33 on: April 13, 2012, 10:23:11 PM » |
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Daniel....It's a beautiful thing when the man upstairs allows someone like your mother-in-law those few moments to have a clear mind. He was, and still is, taking care of her. My thoughts, and prayers are with you both, John.
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« Reply #34 on: April 14, 2012, 01:41:23 AM » |
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Alzheimers, cancer, heart failure, stroke......some may seem worse than others when we witness what they've done to someone we love and care for, but as we know non are pleasant. I recognize that the words mean little from someone you don't know, just the same, because I can relate ever so closely I will just add that I hope that a peace may now fall upon your family.
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« Reply #35 on: April 14, 2012, 02:27:31 AM » |
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...Thoughts and Prayers to you and your wife my friend...shes in a better place now...free of this horrible disease..
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Daniel Meyer
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« Reply #36 on: April 14, 2012, 05:49:01 AM » |
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Talked to her last night after she just pulled in at her grandmother's house. That's one, 1300 mile trip out of the way.
She called me yesterday afternoon...from just west of Asheville..."I think I'm lost!"
She as an atlas AND a GPS.
I say, "Well, keep heading east, eventually you'll hit the Pacific Ocean and then you'll know where you are at!
A moment goes by...then, "If I head east, I'll hit the Atlantic Ocean!
Me, "See! You're not as lost as you thought!"
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« Reply #37 on: April 14, 2012, 06:26:48 PM » |
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So sad. My dad had Alzheimers also, but was in his 70s when diagnosed and died at 81. A truly evil disease.
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Dreadful disease..Prayers for comfort and strength from Bandit and Ladybug..
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