anybody have a neighbor like this?

[cookiedough]

One that calls or asks for opinions near weekly (for sure once per month) but never takes your advice given to them when asked to?  Then, they wonder afterwards why they never took your advice when troubles arise?

Sort of getting annoying after all these years,  just wishing they would move away closer to their work as they plan to in next 2-3 years when their daughter is out of high school.  Hope so! 

[3W-lonerider]

hell I have a mother like that. and yes it's very annoying.

[Oss]

 

[Bighead]

Start billing them for opinions and they will quit asking

[Pete]

Yeah, know what you mean.

Easiest thing I know to do is when they start, just tell them you do not want to hear it.
Yes they will get mad and yes you may loose there friendship.

But was the friendship worth the trouble? only you can decide.
Seems to me most of the time it was a one way friendship and loosing it turns out to not be a bad deal.

Used this technique about three weeks ago and have not seen or heard from the person since.
And you know I have not missed the dialogue.

[da prez]

Daughter-in-law.  My wife is an attorney and her daughter was on the phone constantly asking questions. Wife said many times ,"I do not know Ohio law". She was given advise that she did not attempt to follow , and complained later how she got taken. ( this is the short version). I get it a lot to where I have told some "why should I tell you , You do not listen and then complain when you  failed to follow advise".

                                                   da prez

                                  

[Grandpa Bigbuck]

I refer to them as askholes.

[cookiedough]

Start billing them for opinions and they will quit asking

Great idea!   

He just ticked me off today emailing me when his lazier than lazy wife complained to him about my mowing job that I did for them (charge them 10 bucks each time per mowing) sitting on his own rider mower doing his own small city lot.  I just have to sit on his rider taking 25 minutes tops.  I mow inside swipe 2x's around, then blow the grass outwards and that swipe left a tad bit of grass clippings going into the curb which having lived here since 1993 I know the village doesn't like.  It wasn't like I blew it directly into the curb, just a few wandering clippings guessing enough to fill up a very small wastebasket is all. 

I'm guessing next week when they want me to mow again, I will blow it all into their driveway right away and see how they like that as well instead?   A few clippings going outward towards the curb 8' over (2 swipes away from curb 42" cuts first)  is nothing but a few clippings is all, not much and what wind we get blows it all away anyways.  What would she know anyways, she hasn't mowed a yard in her entire life.  If he wants me to use his weed wacker,  I think I will say that will be 10 bucks extra.    

They are so lazy, especially her, that if she was my wife, she'd be out the door in an instant.   I don't think he cares one way or the other as long as it gets mowed (he has spring allergies and with 2 lazy daughters 22 and 16 with wife just as lazy not willing to mow),  but she seems to wear the pants in the family all lacking some common sense. 

Maybe next year I will say I don't want to and let him pay a landscaping company per mowing guessing 30-40 bucks per mowing, that will change their mind.   He gets severe headaches not only on his spring allergies, but he was just diagnosed with a brain tumor/growth that drs. don't want to remove unless gets bigger also causing him severe headaches.  With 3 LAZY females also giving him triple the headaches,  I can see why he wants to stop on over asking for advice since the 3 others in his household don't lift a finger and are useless, not that he is much smarter/better.   

[Jess from VA]

Daughter-in-law.  My wife is an attorney and her daughter was on the phone constantly asking questions. Wife said many times ,"I do not know Ohio law". She was given advise that she did not attempt to follow , and complained later how she got taken. ( this is the short version). I get it a lot to where I have told some "why should I tell you , You do not listen and then complain when you  failed to follow advise".

                                                   da prez                                  

Boy is this is the truth.  You get asked questions all the time as a shyster (so don't tell people you are), and when the advice is not what they want to hear, they just disregard it and go ahead with what they want to do anyway.  Later, they want to tell you the crash and burn story.  (and you have to resist using the ball peen hammer to the head behavior modification technique)

This is probably true for any type profession or trade.

(Sure, go ahead and test for a gas leak with a lighter) (Sure, just use calk instead of grout, it's quicker and cheaper) (Sure, you're smarter than the cops/judge, just tell them a whopper and they'll believe you) (Sure, your husband has only beaten you bloody three times and now he is very sorry and will never do it again)

[MarkT]

That was a frequent behavior from my father.  Didn't take long to understand he was just looking for validation of the decision he had already made.  I knew him well enough to know what he had chosen.  I'd tell him what I would do in his shoes, then tell him what he should do - what he had already chosen or done.  He didn't use the correct choice anyway, might as well keep peace in the family.  This would be on subjects I am knowledgable or expert on (compared to him).  Like computers, vehicles, HVAC systems, home improvements (used to be a consultant), weapons, marketing, photography.  He was expert in his field but breadth of knowledge, somewhat lacking.

[Romeo]

Yup, almost as bad as those that give their opinions when not asked.

[Hooter]

Daughter-in-law.  My wife is an attorney and her daughter was on the phone constantly asking questions. Wife said many times ,"I do not know Ohio law". She was given advise that she did not attempt to follow , and complained later how she got taken. ( this is the short version). I get it a lot to where I have told some "why should I tell you , You do not listen and then complain when you  failed to follow advise".

                                                   da prez                                  

Boy is this is the truth.  You get asked questions all the time as a shyster (so don't tell people you are), and when the advice is not what they want to hear, they just disregard it and go ahead with what they want to do anyway.  Later, they want to tell you the crash and burn story.  (and you have to resist using the ball peen hammer to the head behavior modification technique)

This is probably true for any type profession or trade.

(Sure, go ahead and test for a gas leak with a lighter) (Sure, just use calk instead of grout, it's quicker and cheaper) (Sure, you're smarter than the cops/judge, just tell them a whopper and they'll believe you) (Sure, your husband has only beaten you bloody three times and now he is very sorry and will never do it again)

Particularly with "frequent fliers". You can tell after about the third time of 50 that these people aren't listening. This is usually the case in most civil cases. He is arrested for spouse assault, she is told told to  leave after gettin her ass beat 3 times in a row. 2 weeks later  you are right back there and he has beat her up again. Must like it, she keeps going back.